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unable to find a match for you at this time. damn to be part of the 20% who can't be matched with at least 1 person out of the millions on this website. I must really suck lol...

3 days and nothing is that normal? ive heard people getting waves of matches upon the first day of completing the questionnaire.

not even 25 yrs yet and not a single date my entire life! is there something wrong with me or what?
- July 2nd, 2009, 11:34 am
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well what can i do? nothing?
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:05 pm
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i haven't gotten a match for 3 weeks.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:08 pm
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and your still here? i mean don't you find it sad, scary, and confusing that over 29 dimensions "a lot about you" basically isn't good enough to be matched with one person?!?

i know i am. considering reading about other people getting 20 matches the first day then complaining because they only get 5 a week makes me think Im really hopeless.
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- July 2nd, 2009, 03:18 pm
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complete_error7 wrote :
and your still here? i mean don't you find it sad, scary, and confusing that over 29 dimensions "a lot about you" basically isn't good enough to be matched with one person?!?

i know i am. considering reading about other people getting 20 matches the first day then complaining because they only get 5 a week makes me think Im really hopeless.
Eharmony isn't magic. it's just a tool in the vast dating toolbox.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:32 pm
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Don't take it so personally and check your distance settings. It may be that there are no people signing up for or using EH in your area and age range for instance. Also, try to losen up other settings as well and see what happens then. Sometimes it's not about you at all. You may want to call their customer service and see if they can't help you tweak some of your settings - if they are to rigid, it's a much more likely cause for not getting matches.
- July 2nd, 2009, 03:33 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
Eharmony isn't magic. it's just a tool in the vast dating toolbox.

do any of those tools come with a manual? like i said in the first post im almost in my mid 20s and never had a date in my entire life. i don't know what to do.

also dancingfool im trying not to take it personal its just well sad and discouraging
when a computer program tells you that you can not get help.

well thank you for your help didnt know i could change that stuff..however i didnt really set the bars high when it came to stuff like. that but i tweak the settings and see..

cheers.
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- July 2nd, 2009, 03:44 pm
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Dear complete_error7,

Every member's eHarmony experience is unique, and there really is no "normal" when it comes to amount of matches. However, I can understand your concern if it's been 3 days and you haven't received any matches!

To figure out what's going on and what options may be available to you, I encourage you to contact Customer Care at your earliest convenience. A Customer Care agent will be happy to review your account and follow-up with you.

You can e-mail Customer Care from the Help link located at the bottom of all our Singles site pages or by clicking here: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/. From the FAQ page, click on any topic, and you will see an e-mail link. Please make sure you receive a confirmation number so that you know your e-mail was successfully sent.

I'm glad that you found our site so that you could get assistance with this matter, and I hope that you will continue to actively participate on eHarmony Advice.

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- July 2nd, 2009, 04:01 pm
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Normally if you go to "My Settings" and broaden your search,..e.t.c age,..drink,..smoke,..distance, country,.
you probably will get some more few matches after that.
- July 2nd, 2009, 04:04 pm
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You could be a very unique individual...dance to your own drum. That just means you will be unforgettable when you do finally meet someone!

Seriously, I'd look at those settings. Some of these discussions are about long-distance romances. I asked one person why they don't just make their distance 30mi for instance. The answer was that in almost a year out of 700 Matches, only 4 were within 30miles.

There's another thread in here that people who Don't Drink get fewer Matches also. So take a look at all your settings...

You're only 25. There is someone out there for you. Good luck!

- July 2nd, 2009, 04:41 pm
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