eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 8: "What's The One Thing People Don't Notice About You...?"


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Laura8 is offline Laura8 Post #51  May 15,2010, 2:01pm
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This question is driving me crazy!! (not really! )
I had on my profile that I wish peopl would notice that I am outgoing. Only because at times, I do appear to be somewhat quiet. But, not for very long..I'm only somewhat reserved until I get to know the scenario..But, I still don't like my outgoing answer..any ideas?? Laura8
 
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melman is offline melman Post #52  May 15,2010, 5:32pm
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Oh, if I had a nickel for every profile I've read that says that the first thing everyone notices is that "I'm shy", but that they wish everyone would notice that they are really outgoing. I'd have a really big pile of nickels.

Doesn't that sound kinda ridiculous? Does a truly outgoing person really claim that nobody else knows that?

What this says to me, is that the person is unhappy with who they are. And that's not a good way to attract interest from others.

I much prefer that this question have a light-hearted answer or some "things that no one knows about me" trivia.
 
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liquid_steel is offline liquid_steel Post #53  July 17,2010, 1:35pm

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I find this question both a delicious challenge and a vexation. First, it's only one's guess as to what others do or do not notice. We can hardly view ourselves objectively (as others can), so to be asked to do so seems like a catch-22. The only way to know is to ask, yes?

So, for accuracy, I conduct a poll, causing conjestion in the grocery store checkout line while I turn 180 degrees and ask, "What is the first thing you notice about me?" The busy fellow holding two gallons of icecream in his arms replies, "That you're holding up the line." I see a drip of vanilla roll off his cuff and onto his freshly polished shoes. I move briskly through the line.

Or, I ask the people seated next to me while at the symphony -- what do they notice about me first. "Huh? Umhhh...oh..Shut up...I'm trying to hear the obo...my favorite part of Mozart." Or, I ask passersby in the city park, "What do you notice about me?" He darts a suspicious glare, "Lady, I ain't got no cash," he replies, picking up his pace passed me. Or, I ask those enjoying dinner only two tables away from me at Marcellos: "Mind telling me what you notice about me?" The woman poises her wine glass at her lips, then looks at her dinner date. I hear him clear his throat and say, "That you may wish to use your napkin -- got a little butter under your nose that looks, well, probably not the way you wish." I rush to the ladies room.

Sigh.

So, how can I answer this eHarmony question well if I don't acquire an accurate assessment of what others notice?
 
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Received a match today whose response was "That I am hungry".

Wow, really?
 
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Received a match today whose response was "That I am hungry"
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Maybe so.
 
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liquid_steel wrote :
So, how can I answer this eHarmony question well if I don't acquire an accurate assessment of what others notice?
Hi Liquid_steel -

Very funny. You may have an easier time answering this question if you don't take it too literally, or to mean that you have some quality that always gets overlooked and you're just dying for people to notice this about you.

Instead, maybe pick a quality that represents something you'd have to offer in a relationship -- something that your closer friends notice about you that doesn't necessarily come out in a first time meeting. Maybe it's some fun trivial fact about your life such as you won the spelling bee in 5th grade or it could be more interpersonal, like you're good at including new people into conversations.

Dropdeadredtx wrote :
Received a match today whose response was "That I am hungry".

Wow, really?
Sounds like he's trying to be funny? At least it's not cliche!

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liquid_steel is offline liquid_steel Post #58  November 9,2010, 2:02pm

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It depends. When in a hurry, I wish that others would notice and pull over to the right lane and let me pass. When not in a hurry, I wish that others would notice that and pass me rather than hang on my bumper (smile).
 
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