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Now, I know what you're probably thinking, but I don't mean that! This thread is to answer the age-old question, "Why does a match close me out for the reason "other." I've discovered a probable reason, and I'm now using the "other" box myself. I've often said it takes too many key strokes to close a match, and if you have several matches to close at one sittting, it can be cumbersome. The "other" box is the last one listed, and it is right above the "close match" confirmation button. Thus, it is quicker to go to the reasons list, quickly scroll to the bottom, click "other" and then click on "close." It's simply a bit quicker. So, for those who have been racking their brains trying to figure out what "other" means- don't. I think it's most likely a case of position preference.
- June 28th, 2009, 05:58 pm
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Yeah; I've brought up that point myself. Especially if you are trying to close out a bunch of matches at once, it takes a lot less time to click on the closest box instead of searching through the long list to find one that is more detailed...
- June 28th, 2009, 06:05 pm
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Considering what a person on my friends list here heard from their match via text, Other would be far better to read than what she went through. I can say from being on the Picture/Profile sites, you're a lot better off not knowing why a person may have turned you down.
- June 28th, 2009, 06:10 pm
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I does make one wonder, what would happen if they changed the position. Say, "I'd rather not tell" is moved from the middle (not sure why they put it in the middle anyway) to the bottom, below "Other". I wouldn't be surprised if "rather not tell" would suddenly become a popular reason.
- June 28th, 2009, 06:59 pm
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I used I'd Rather Not Say when he had SEVERAL references to sex in his Must Haves-Can't Stands...you think it was important to him???

I used Other when I simply did not like his stinkin' looks!
- June 28th, 2009, 10:51 pm
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I've never found it cumbersome to close matches, but then again I hardly ever get any matches to begin with!

I'd love to have your "complaint."
- June 29th, 2009, 02:33 am
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Maybe I'm too new to this, but I find that these closing options are heartless. I wish there were an option to write a line of explanation.
I.e. a match said that he'd never leave the city, which isn't good for me at all. I'd like to be able to tell him that is the reason, not his looks or other things he said.
Wouldn't that make things feel less like a rejection?
- June 29th, 2009, 07:40 am
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Since my matches close me for all kinds of reasons when they choose "Other" it usually means that I am too short.
- June 29th, 2009, 09:38 am
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Wonderwoman402 wrote :
I've never found it cumbersome to close matches, but then again I hardly ever get any matches to begin with!

I'd love to have your "complaint."
I would think that you should have plenty of matches where you live. Maybe you need to fiddle with some of your settings to see if that will get you more matches.
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Since my matches close me for all kinds of reasons when they choose "Other" it usually means that I am too short.

I only did Other when he was too short once. Because his profile made my Creep Alert work overtime!

Ususally if they're too short, I try to find another reason. He already knows he's short, doesn't need me to point it out, I'm not trying to make anybody feel bad...
- June 29th, 2009, 10:11 am
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