Why doesn't E-Harmony list marital status in the profile?


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Mayne is offline Mayne Post #1  June 27,2009, 5:45pm
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On other dating sites, people are listed as

1. Single, never married
2. Divorced
3. Widowed
4. Separated

E-Harmony does not permit separated persons on here. However, they do not tell us if our matches have been previously married. I think this is a critical piece of "deal breaker" information that they don't let us in on early on. Why is that?
 
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That's a really good question. I personally wouldn't want to date anyone who was previously married. EH really does need to add this information to users' profiles.
 
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Yea, this stinks!

We need more categories for “separated”:

· Different houses.
· Same house, different rooms.
· He’s at his new partner’s apartment.
· Same bed, but not facing each other.
· She’s in Monaco with her tennis instructor.
 
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MrSmileyMan wrote :
That's a really good question. I personally wouldn't want to date anyone who was previously married. EH really does need to add this information to users' profiles.
Hello, I'm just curious, why is someone being previously married a "deal breaker". Is it that you are "young" ( 20-25 years old)?
 
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Tank wrote :
Hello, I'm just curious, why is someone being previously married a "deal breaker". Is it that you are "young" ( 20-25 years old)?
Well, to those of looking for people who keep their word and commitments, a divorce is a pretty negative sign in that regard.
 
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Mayne wrote :
Well, to those of looking for people who keep their word and commitments, a divorce is a pretty negative sign in that regard.
That pretty much sums it up for me.
 
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Mayne wrote :
Well, to those of looking for people who keep their word and commitments, a divorce is a pretty negative sign in that regard.
That is VERY judgmental when you don't know the circumstances in their marriage or the reason for the divorce!

I, personally, would like to know a person's marital status as it gives at least a small clue into their life history, same as other significant events such as whether they have children. I'd want to know it by the first meeting, regardless, so I'd prefer it was in the profile.
 
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I agree that it is very judgemental to make a comment like that about all divorced people. I am divorced and I assure you that I took my vows seriously and lived as God intended for a man and wife to live. There are situations that are beyond one's control. How you pick up the pieces and try to have a positive impact on your children is much more important than the fact that you were once married.
 
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MrSmileyMan wrote :
That's a really good question. I personally wouldn't want to date anyone who was previously married. EH really does need to add this information to users' profiles.

They could be widowed. Even at such a young age as you. It does happen.
 
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j0hn8andy wrote :
They could be widowed. Even at such a young age as you. It does happen.

I have no problem dating a widow. That's a lot different from someone who promises to stay married "til death do us part" and then runs off and gets divorced anyway.
 
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