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Ok Guys...I am getting NO communication from matches...I have TONS of people looking at my profile BUT no communication...Just wondering if anyone is having the same issues. What are you guys doing to get communication. Any help would be great.
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- June 27th, 2009, 09:43 am
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Sometimes I've seen people post their profiles here for others to critique. You might try that.

I assume you have pics?
- June 27th, 2009, 03:20 pm
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Probably none of your matches are actually paying members. If they aren't a paid member, they can't communicate with you.

I just got 3 more "flexible matches" of profiles that are sparsely completed and only 1 had a photo. None of them have even looked at my profile. I don't think anyone actually pays for eHarmony anymore.....
- June 27th, 2009, 03:43 pm
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How long have you been on Eharmony?
- June 27th, 2009, 05:19 pm
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Does your eHarmony profile look like the one you have posted here? No photo and no information.
- June 27th, 2009, 07:16 pm
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Don't be surprised as time goes by about not having much communication. Some people have really good luck others do not. I currently have 28 open matches, 26 of those haven't responded to my first question. Two of them I have made it to OC but it never got passed that. Though they haven't closed me.
- June 28th, 2009, 11:30 am
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barryj1979 wrote :
Ok Guys...I am getting NO communication from matches...I have TONS of people looking at my profile BUT no communication...Just wondering if anyone is having the same issues. What are you guys doing to get communication. Any help would be great.
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WE all have this problem. It sounds like you are trying to communicate with non-paying members. They can look at your profile but not see your pics and they cant communicate.
Ive must have had like 60 matches I was trying to communicate with that never responded.

A good way to tell if they are paying members is if they
A) Write back within a week
or
B)They close you the day they are matched with you because they can actually see your profile and pics and werent interested.

Its frustrating, trying to communicate with someone that probably has forgotten that they even started an eharmony profile.in the first place.
- June 30th, 2009, 01:23 am
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Dear barryj1979,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice. So glad you found our site and that you have reached out for support!

Getting NO communication is certainly something to be concerned about. Without knowing the particulars of your situation -- how long you've been on our site, as JTF asked, or how long you've been waiting for responses -- when a member says they aren't getting any communication, the first place to start is with their profile. It is your profile, after all, which introduces you to your matches and, hopefully, inspires them to communicate with you.

A couple of members have already steered you in that direction, and I encourage you to follow their advice and take a look at your profile. On your About Me page, are you staying away from generalities and providing detailed answers? Do you have photos and do they help your matches get a glimpse into your life?

If you would like some feedback regarding your About Me page, for example, you may want to share parts of it here, as j0hn8andy suggested, and/or you may want to take advantage of the Profile Workshops currently taking place here on the Using eHarmony forum. Each workshop covers one of the questions on the About Me page, and eHarmony members and staff discuss the best way to approach and answer these questions.

The most recent workshop covers Question 8: "What's The One Thing People Don't Notice About You...?" The following link will take you to that workshop, which also contains links to the previous workshops too: eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 8: "What's The One Thing People Don't Notice About You...?" - Dating & Relationship Discussion Boards – eHarmony Advice.

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- July 1st, 2009, 09:37 pm
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