ktxmom is offline ktxmom Post #1  June 24,2009, 2:26pm
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I have a question.

I have had someone fast track me. He is from Malaysia. I don't mean to be rude but I have heard of stories of people getting other people to get them to their country and then they want nothing more to do with you, so i'm a little leary to trust this person.

If I agreed with a fast track eharmony doesn't give you personal info right?

Would you agree to a fast track?

I am pretty new here.
 
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As far as I know fast tracking just means that you skip all the steps and questions in between and go straight to open communication - meaning e-mails via EH system. I'd ask EH customer service directly for how they specifically protect your privacy.
 
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Dear ktxmom,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

First of all, I want to assure you that eHarmony never discloses your personal contact information to your matches. One of the reasons eHarmony is America's #1 Trusted Relationship site is because our members' safety and privacy is of utmost importance to us. The only information we provide is the information listed on your profile.

That being said, we encourage members to take advantage of the Guided Communication process, which lets you get to know a match little by little and allows you to share important information before making the decision to enter into Open Communication. However, we understand that this process may now work for all our members; so we provide the FastTrack option.

No matter which route you take, once you enter into Open Communication, our Safety Tips advise you to be cautious when sharing personal information. Also, should you ever have concerns about a match, our Safety Tips advise you to email you concerns to matchconcerns@eharmony.com.

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ktxmom wrote :
I have a question.

I have had someone fast track me. He is from Malaysia. I don't mean to be rude but I have heard of stories of people getting other people to get them to their country and then they want nothing more to do with you, so i'm a little leary to trust this person.

If I agreed with a fast track eharmony doesn't give you personal info right?

Would you agree to a fast track?

I am pretty new here.
First welcome to the Advice boards.

Fast Track in itself is not a problem and the personal info that you get via eHarmony is the same for Guided Communication or Fast Track. It is the stuff that you (or your match) has revealed at the top of the profile. Age, height, occupation, etc.

I prefer Guided Communication because I gain certain information from the questions that I ask. Many people here think that Guided Communication is a joke and waste of time. Fast Track is simply going immediately to Open Communication which is noting more than using the eHarmony double blind e-mail system so that you and your match can communicate without revealing your personal identity in the beginning.

My personal red flags go up if I was to be contacted by anyone outside of the US, Canada or Western Europe (of course I have my distance setting to 30 miles so if I got matched to anyone outside of the greater Orlando, FL area there would be something wrong). If you had said the guy was from Nigeria all kinds of bells and sirens would be going off but for Malaysia I would say to use even more than the usual caution. You may want to contact eHarmony support to see if they have any reason to suspect that the match is not who he says he is.

You may also wish to post the parts of his profile that he wrote as we here on the boards are usually pretty good at spotting scammers.
 
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