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As I have stated in previous posts, I am a non-paying member. However, I am seriously thinking about becoming one. So far eH has paired me with two matches. (There were a couple others but there profiles were a big turnoff, and they lived very far away) There profiles sound okay, kind of boring and general, with little to go by. Because of my young age bracket (20-30), I am not sure if there will be many others. Is there anyone else in this age group who receives several ongoing matches? Also, has anyone gone through with the paid membership only to be disappointed after with matches that are not your type? The concept of not being able to see their pictures makes the decision very difficult. A picture really is worth a thousand words, it says alot about a person. Please share experiences good or bad, with making your decision.
- June 23rd, 2009, 08:50 pm
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I paid for 3 months (along wtih RelyID), roughly a week ago. I am in the younger bracket, and in ~6 days have received 31 matches in total thus far. Maybe my standards are a little "looser" than yours though?

I have received 1 person's answers to communication, and the rest have not done anything. Many girls have photos and complete profiles, but must not be paid members, or may not be on Eharmoney at all currently, as I receive no look at my profile, or response. I'll give them time, but probably will close them out 2 weeks later.

I think if you are serious about it at all, you need to pay. Thus far I am very disappointed because several girls have approved "fast track" but not responded to my questions, so must mean they are not paid members? My time is wasted if they are not a paid member or are not active currently.

Ehh...it's cheaper than an expensive night out to a nice restaurant and a movie, so it's not entirely expensive. It "SHOULD" be more accurate than the average blind date, but who knows. Thus far I have had some very, very attractive matches, with very similar interests/interesting profiles, but no real successes on communication.
- June 23rd, 2009, 10:46 pm
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I started a month ago and I'm 26. I've had about 180 matches (two of which I've gone out on dates with) but I'm also living in a relatively large city. I'd imagine it'd be harder if you're in a smaller town. I'd say give it a try and don't be afraid to make the first move and don't depend on just eH to be the sole source for finding a relationship. I think it's about having realistic expectations. I also did a lot of research on reviews on different online dating sites and looked up tips, too.
- June 23rd, 2009, 11:28 pm
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I noticed that different dating sites seem to have different degress of popularity in different areas. So if you've only received very few matches, either you might want to losen your requirements or there is low membership in your area and you may wish to peruse other dating sites as well and see where you are getting better results.

As far as whether EH is effective or not - despite the marketing it's not a magic wand. No dating site, matchmaker, etc. can actually guarantee you chemistry in real life with the person. All they do is introduce you to people that you would not normally meet in your daily social circles. What happens once you meet in person is not predictable.
- June 24th, 2009, 08:44 am
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Do you have a better avenue (than EH) for meeting people of the opposite sex?

If the answer is yes, then you will probably not want to put up with the expense and frustration of EH.
- June 24th, 2009, 11:38 am
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Hi Lookin4lovexo,

Actually, a lot of the members who find someone are in your age bracket, because that's a common age range for people to be finding the right person to settle down with.

When you sign up, it's a toss-up on whether or not you'll feel attracted to matches, even if they have great profiles. Or, you may have struck gold with your first set of matches. The good thing is that thousands of members are signing up a day, the number of matches you start with is not necessarily finite.

If you decide that you are going to pay for eHarmony as part of your search for a happy long term relationship, it helps to keep in mind that something that huge (finding a life-long partner) could implicitly take time. It's normal, for instance, to get more matches that wouldn't be right for you than matches who have extraordinary potential. But along the process, you will probably find some matches that you'd like to get to know.

It only takes one. I spoke to a member recently who was upset at the beginning of her membership because she wasn't attracted to her matches (and she happened to get many). Through the course of her subscription, she communicated with a grand total of 2 matches. One poofed, and she's talking marriage with the other one. That's just one member. Each member has a different tale to tell.

If you do sign up, more than anything, we want you to have success. If you haven't already done so, you might want to get your photos posted and your About Me page ready so that it's ready to go when you are ready to communicate. Also, our Customer Care team can provide you with suggestions on how to open up your settings for more opportunities to find someone special.

All the best,

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- June 24th, 2009, 03:04 pm
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If you search online, you should be able to find discount codes for eHarmony. My current eHarmony stint I got 3 months for $9.95/mo. Not much for the ability to see photos and communicate, even if you never actually end up meeting anyone in person.
- June 24th, 2009, 09:12 pm
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