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I am new to the site (3 days) and have 2 matches which have looked at my profile, but haven't responded. My first contact, I initiated an "open Communication". She accepted, but didn't respond at all. Can non-paying members accept open communication?

If so, is it against any rules to send the individual (obviously somewhat interested? ) messages with emails to contact to, etc. For someone to go on and "accept" open communication, but then not follow through with a response to messages/questions, doesn't make sense. This makes me think the person could accept, but not respond....
- June 22nd, 2009, 10:36 pm
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Dear JoeB1901,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice and to our Singles service!

You must be a paying member to accept a FastTrack request. While I can understand your confusion as to why your match didn't send you a message upon accepting your request, there may be a good reason; so I encourage you to be patient.

Also, it sounds like you may have provided her with your personal e-mail address in your FastTrack request. If so, perhaps she has decided to contact you that way. Either way, I hope that she will be contacting you soon so the two of you have the opportunity to get better acquainted.

Just to clarify, while members are prohibited from doing so prior to reaching Open Communication with a match, once reached, you can, at your discretion, share personal contact information such as e-mail addresses, phone numbers, etc.

Lastly, anytime you have questions about our Singles service or need account assistance, our Customer Care team is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can e-mail Customer Care from the Help link located at the bottom of all our Singles site pages or by clicking here: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/. From the FAQ page, click on any topic, and you will see an e-mail link. Once your e-mail is successfully sent, you will receive a confirmation number, and a Customer Care agent will be glad to follow up with you.

I wish you all the best with your search and hope you will continue to actively participate here on eHarmony Advice!

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- June 23rd, 2009, 11:28 am
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Joe,

I would also recommend that you use the Guided Communications as opposed to Fast Track. Most of the members pay for EH because they like the GC method of getting to know someone.
- June 23rd, 2009, 02:03 pm
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee wrote :
You must be a paying member to accept a FastTrack request. While I can understand your confusion as to why your match didn't send you a message upon accepting your request, there may be a good reason; so I encourage you to be patient.
Thanks for the info, that helps me understand the system, thanks! Maybe she's "sizing me up". I just wanted to make sure if I was in open communication someone could respond back, and also see my full profile, (I allow this), and photo, etc. That answers everything, thanks!


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I would also recommend that you use the Guided Communications as opposed to Fast Track. Most of the members pay for EH because they like the GC method of getting to know someone.
Funny thing: I initiated "fast track" on ONE girl, which was somewhat local (5hr drive), whom I found very, very attractive. Had several pictures, and a complete profile, making me assume she was a paying member. I hadn't had any responses from my GC from other contacts. I figured I'd try out the Fast Track with this girl to see how it worked. She accepted fast track pretty quick, but hasn't responded back. So, we'll give her some time. Hopefully she at least responds back.

Also, the GC seems rather mundane to start communication. These are just to "assist" someone communicate. I feel i communicate very well, so, I'd rather converse back and forth than asking a cookie cutter question.
- June 23rd, 2009, 10:55 pm
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JoeB1901 wrote :
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Also, the GC seems rather mundane to start communication. These are just to "assist" someone communicate. I feel i communicate very well, so, I'd rather converse back and forth than asking a cookie cutter question.
Joe,

There is two main differences between EH & picturematch.com. The first is that EH tries to use personality characteristics to match people, and that EH provides a gentle road to "free communications".

When you use fast track you are eliminating the possibility that someone will slowly become interested in you. (One of the EH principles being: Try to communicate with all your matches.) You are forcing an up / down decision from the other person right away.

The other thing (as I said above) is that I believe (in addition to the personality matching) that people (for the most part) genuinely like the slow measured approach of GC. It's not a question of whether you communicate well or not, it's a question of how do your potential matches want to be approached.
- June 24th, 2009, 11:34 am
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Agree, it rules out a lot of stuff. Fast track can sound like "in a hurry", which may be fine for some, but a turn-off for others.
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I would also recommend that you use the Guided Communications as opposed to Fast Track. Most of the members pay for EH because they like the GC method of getting to know someone.
- June 24th, 2009, 11:53 am
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DDjr wrote :
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There is two main differences between EH & picturematch.com. The first is that EH tries to use personality characteristics to match people, and that EH provides a gentle road to "free communications".

When you use fast track you are eliminating the possibility that someone will slowly become interested in you. (One of the EH principles being: Try to communicate with all your matches.) You are forcing an up / down decision from the other person right away.

The other thing (as I said above) is that I believe (in addition to the personality matching) that people (for the most part) genuinely like the slow measured approach of GC. It's not a question of whether you communicate well or not, it's a question of how do your potential matches want to be approached.
I have tried the "slow" approach on the other matches which I found at all interesting. They have all not responded but one. The single one I "fast tracked" to see how it worked, accepted within a day, but hasn't responded? To me, it seems like she's in an area with cellphone reception to check things (vacation?), but doesn't have the time to write out a ton of messages on a non-smart phone (no qwerty keyboard). Time will tell. I wouldn't fast-track everyone...if they respond, and seem at all interesting, maybe.

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Agree, it rules out a lot of stuff. Fast track can sound like "in a hurry", which may be fine for some, but a turn-off for others.
I normally don't use "guided communicaton" when meeting any girl for the first time...
- June 24th, 2009, 04:27 pm
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