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lookin4lovexo is offline lookin4lovexo Post #1  June 22,2009, 5:46pm

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I am new to this whole online dating scene. I am not a paying member yet, and I have not posted a pic. Is it completely necessary to post one? I mean we all have personal/professional lives and I am a bit apprehensive about posting my pic to the public. I have great pics, its not that I have anything to hide, but I would hate for it to damage my career in any way or make me look bad. I don't want everyone knowing that I belong to a dating site.
I could understand once communication begins and a match sends you messages, I would probably send my pic then. Also, could anyone see our pics or just our matches?
 
 
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lookin4lovexo wrote :
I am new to this whole online dating scene. I am not a paying member yet, and I have not posted a pic. Is it completely necessary to post one? I mean we all have personal/professional lives and I am a bit apprehensive about posting my pic to the public. I have great pics, its not that I have anything to hide, but I would hate for it to damage my career in any way or make me look bad. I don't want everyone knowing that I belong to a dating site.
I could understand once communication begins and a match sends you messages, I would probably send my pic then. Also, could anyone see our pics or just our matches?
This is not a dating service.
This is just a place to hang out, drive yourself and others crazy and have some fun with it. A picture is unnecessary here, unless you want to post it. As you see, mine looks gorgeous as is.

But if you are talking about eHarmony dating site, then I would certainly recommend to include a picture or two, or you will eliminate a big portion of potential matches, who simply don't reply if there is no picture attached.

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lookin4lovexo wrote :
I have great pics, its not that I have anything to hide, but I would hate for it to damage my career in any way or make me look bad. I don't want everyone knowing that I belong to a dating site.
I could understand once communication begins and a match sends you messages, I would probably send my pic then. Also, could anyone see our pics or just our matches?
Don't post a picture here then because it is public.

The eHarmony site proper is NOT open to the public. Your matches can view you pictures and including a picture greatly increases your chances of communicating with someone. If you don't include a picture there, you are likely to be closed by your matches since generally non-paying members don't have pictures uploaded.

You do have the option to keep your picture hidden from matches until later stages of communications or to only allow your photos to be viewed by matches who reciprocate.

I do not want my photo freely viewed in public on a dating site and I never felt worried about my privacy with eHarmony...eHarmony advice is a completely different matter.
 
 
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Yes, I am referring to posting a picture on our profile for eharmony,
NOT this message board.
 
 
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Another problem is that because I am a non paying member I do not get to see my matches picture so I am hesitant to posting mine.
 
 
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Also because I am a non paying member, I do not get to see my matches pictures so I have been hesitant to posting mine.
 
 
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lookin4lovexo wrote :
Also because I am a non paying member, I do not get to see my matches pictures so I have been hesitant to posting mine.
You need to decide what your purpose there is. If you are not paying, I assume you are just looking, in which case there is absolutely no reason for you to post a picture. You can't communicate with them either. You are not using the service.

You have the chance to see what your matches have written in their profiles in total anonymity. They will most likely close you as soon as they view your profile because you don't have a picture...something most paying members assume means you are not a paying member.
 
 
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Only post a picture if you're are actually going to use the service --pay for it. Otherwise there isn't much of a point. Only your matches can see your picture anyway.

They do a lot of deals from time to time. First time signing up for eHarmony I paid $30 for 3 months during one of the specials, keep an eye out.
 
 
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If you decide to become a paying member, you definitely want to post pictures (make sure you get good pictures of yourself - a good head shot and full body shot) and make them immediately available to your matches.
 
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
This is not a dating service.
I dunno, it's been said people have found each other on EHA ...

MelinCali wrote :
You need to decide what your purpose there is. If you are not paying, I assume you are just looking, in which case there is absolutely no reason for you to post a picture. You can't communicate with them either. You are not using the service.

You have the chance to see what your matches have written in their profiles in total anonymity. They will most likely close you as soon as they view your profile because you don't have a picture...something most paying members assume means you are not a paying member.
^^^THIS^^^

I'm sure an admin can come in and confirm or deny this, but once you get matched to someone and you're closed, that's it. There's always the possibility that you can use the final message feature and they'll reopen you, but that doesn't seem to happen too often. If you are just browsing now and get closed, you won't be rematched with those people when you become a paying member. I suppose you can scrap your whole profile and redo it from scratch and hope for the best when/if you become a paying member.
 
 
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