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MMingE is offline MMingE Post #1  June 21,2009, 3:47pm
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Has anyone ever been in a situation where the person you were matched with wanted to meet you immediately after reaching open communication? This has happened to me a few times and the girl had already wanted to make plans to get together after the second message but when I tell that I have other plans, and they always seem to expect me to drop whatever I had planned(work, grad school and anything else that I made plans to do before I reached OC) they lose interest and I never hear from them again. Has anybody ever encountered a match who was like that? What happened?
 
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Haven't experienced that myself, but people who are used to other dating services sometimes find the EH question & answer format a long and tedious process to getting to finally meet somebody. Maybe while they were waiting to meet you, they met somebody else who caught their fancy. You know how it is- (the early bird gets the worm!)
 
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I’ve been on the receiving end of a few eager women (not too many), and a few who kept up with my pace and agreed to meet quickly.

Expecting to be put (on the pedestal) ahead of school / work commitments would not sit well with me, but I could understand being upset if you gave an excuse I found silly. Usually I prefer women who meet sooner.
 
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You will never really know a person until you meet in person. So I do prefer to not spend a long time in Open Communication. But I would think that after the second e-mail was just a wee bit quick.

On the flip side I have found that spending a week or two communicating before meeting seems to make things go a bit better.

I have never had a match that wanted to meet as soon as we reached Open Communication but most are willing to meet without a long e-mail episode.
 
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I haven't had an active subscription for a long time now, but when I did it was for one reason and one reason only: to meet someone. The GC can be a bit o' fun as long as it doesn't drag out too long, but personally I have a lot of my own questions that I want to ask and I want to hear your voice and see your face while you are answering them. I also have a lot of things that I would like to share with you. We all have to be patient with one another and respect each other's obligations, but if you find that you are having difficulty wrangling in a simple shared cup of coffee within a reasonable amount of time then you shouldn't expect your ladies to wait indefinitely until you can. The thinking is, if you don't have enough free time to meet someone how do you plan on dating anyone? We all have obligations in our lives, but if we want to meet someone, especially if we want that bad enough to pay for a service - that does have an expiration date on it BTW - to facilitate that then it is kind of assumed by others that we are willing to shake ourselves loose for a couple of hours once in a while to get to know them.

Good luck to you, sir! I hope that you find someone who truly intrigues you!
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MMingE wrote :
Has anyone ever been in a situation where the person you were matched with wanted to meet you immediately after reaching open communication? This has happened to me a few times and the girl had already wanted to make plans to get together after the second message but when I tell that I have other plans, and they always seem to expect me to drop whatever I had planned(work, grad school and anything else that I made plans to do before I reached OC) they lose interest and I never hear from them again. Has anybody ever encountered a match who was like that? What happened?
Well, if they lose interest because you're not available on a specific night, then you're probably better off without them. But if they lose interest because they want to get together at some point in the next week or two and you say you have other plans every night, that's probably telling them that you're not very interested.
 
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I generally want to meet with someone after one back and forth of open communication. After going through the rounds of 1st and 2nd questions, if I do feel there is a possibility of a connection, I'd like to meet soon. This is simply because I have gone back and forth via email and telephone with people that I could tell within 5 minutes after meeting were completely incompatible with me.

I think the lack of consideration for your schedule is more troublesome than anything else.
 
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Tank is offline Tank Post #8  June 21,2009, 8:34pm
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I had one person want to meet me after 2 e-mails from Fasttrack and a 20 minute telephone conversation. I told her it was a little too soon. We talked on phone 1 more day that week, then she called to inform me she was too busy with graduate school to start a relationship right now and did not want me to waste my time with her. I told her to give me a call if her schedule slows down and she is still interested in contacting me.
 
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I've had that happen. I've also had women dump their phone number as a first OC message and ask that I call. I usually close those ones out... but I don't mind meeting up right away if it looks like a good match.

A lot of it depends on where you and your match live. I've read stories on here about people driving 10 hours to meet someone... yeah, I think I'd need more than a few emails for that... but to drive 5 miles for a cup of coffee isn't a very big investment of time.
 
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Girls like that are just looking for the BBD, the Bigger,Better, deal.
 
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