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Tank is offline Tank Post #21  October 7,2009, 2:05pm
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I had a match who said she likes movies in our first OC e-mail message and then the first time we talked on the phone she stated that was her hint to me to invite her to the movies that night. We communicated for a few more days but from that I knew things were not going to work out, and it did not.
 
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She set the ball up perfectly over the rim for you, and you didn't want to slam it home? (Pardon my analogy, please.) Why was this a sign to you that things were not going to work out? I am really confused here.
 
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She set the ball up perfectly over the rim for you, and you didn't want to slam it home? (Pardon my analogy, please.) Why was this a sign to you that things were not going to work out? I am really confused here.
I like to talk with my match in open communication for a while, then talk on phone, then meet in person IF a get good feeling from them. For a match to suggest that we go out in the first Open Communication message without getting to know me better shows a "rush" to meet me without gettingto know me as a person. Or to use your anology, throwing an alley oop toward the basket without even calling the play or making eye contact with me.
 
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I hear/see what you're saying.

But you simply can't get to know a person through the wire. Especially not "as a person". Meeting face to face is just essential. (Safely, of course.)

Time and again, people here write about spending lots of friendly time in OC and phone and email, and in the first 30 seconds of a meeting it all goes up in so much smoke. Anyone who's been on more than a couple of these meetings, knows this.
 
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melman wrote :
I hear/see what you're saying.

But you simply can't get to know a person through the wire. Especially not "as a person". Meeting face to face is just essential. (Safely, of course.)

Time and again, people here write about spending lots of friendly time in OC and phone and email, and in the first 30 seconds of a meeting it all goes up in so much smoke. Anyone who's been on more than a couple of these meetings, knows this.
I agree with what some of what you say. I read how some people be in Open Comm. for over a month and live close to each other and yet in that time don't talk on phone or agree to meet in person. I assume when you agree to Guided Comm as opposed to Fasttrack you want to see what my favorite movies are before you "hint" that you want to go. She liked only Tyler Perry movies, I don't.
 
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