So with four days of a six month EH membership left (still single, no prospects, but one short lived dating experience from the deal), I thought I would chime in on the EH weight discussion. I started out my time here 5'5 and about 25 lbs overweight and was matched time after time with men who had a can't stand of people being overweight. I closed these men, partly out of principle, and partly out of respect of the process. I truly feel everyone should be with someone they think of as a great catch. I met no one and felt pretty hopeless about the whole process.

Four months into the process, having lost the weight, I tried again. Even with fewer matches (I had previously exhausted the pool of eligible 'matches' in my area), I recieved a lot more communications. Most of my matches still put the can't stand of overweight but after three months of no luck, I had rationalized myself out of my previous principals and communicated with these matches anyway. LOL. Several went to open communications, five went to phone number stage, and I met one in person. And I have never communicated with more superficial men in my life. All were incredibly focused on my body and appearance (in a positive way but still objectifying), all were derrogatory of people with weight problems (even the one I met in person who was at least 30 lbs overweight himself), and all were generally unempathetic and seemingly uninterested in a deeper level of connection than a meet up rapidly followed by the beginnings of a sexual relationship.

Now I am just reporting my personal experiences, no generalizations, and you can take from what it what you will. But, for me, based on my experience with and without the added screening process of some extra weight, I wish EH had a way to filter out people with a high importance on physical appearance.

Either way about it, my membership will expire soon, not to be renewed. And I really think that the process was valuable in learning about myself and others. But I have to say to anyone new to EH who might be reading the threads that state losing weight will widen up your dating pool, they are right. But for me, my pool definitely didn't widen to include more quality matches. Best of luck to everyone!