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blrdancer wrote :
I see comments like this frequently -- "I'm too busy to meet men/women the usual way." When I see this, it always makes me wonder -- if they don't have time to even "meet" people, how are they ever going to have time to maintain a relationship.

So, no, if you are truly interested in making time in your life for a relationship - I would probably rephrase this statement.
Or, add something like, "This said, if I meet someone through EH I would definitely make time for the other person."

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On a parallel note, have you really thought about what it entails to establish and maintain a relationship? It's one thing to say "hey I think I'd like someone in my life", but it's quite another when there is a real person that you have to find time to email and telephone, and cut time from your busy schedule to allow for quality time with the other person.
- June 19th, 2009, 09:35 am
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Personally if I saw this in a profile I would be a bit hesitant. If I was you I would re-write this part of your profile to show the part about loving what you do and how "cool" it is but leave out the amount that you work and also write it such that you make sure that your matches feel that they have a place in your life and that you have time for them.

I agree with this.
- June 19th, 2009, 03:24 pm
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I agree with the other posters. Saying you love your job is great. It makes women think you'll be in a good mood at the end of the day, not griping over a big-gulp sized martini. Saying you work 6 days a week isn't good, though, especially if you might be willing to give that up for someone special. Instead of talking about the time you put in, talk about the parts of your job that you love.

All I think of when I hear about a man willingly working 6 days a week is "Whenever we disagree on anything, I'll bet he'll be hiding out at the office instead of coming home." And that's coming from a woman who works 6 days a week! But definitely not by choice.
- June 19th, 2009, 05:40 pm
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As you wrote you don't want your job to define you, nor for it to be your life - my immediate impression was that this is actually true of you today. Your job does define you and is your life .. and this doesn't have to be a negative quality/statement.

I would want to know more about your job (which industry), to understand why you are putting in 6 days/week; what you love about it and what do you do to have work/life balance?
- June 19th, 2009, 08:05 pm
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Word. Everyone is right. You shouldn't say how much you work. The first thing people think is "when will I see this person"?
Just leave it out and if you meet someone then make sure you make time for them. I think if you make an effort and put them first then they can't complain.

On the other hand, this has always bothered me. That has to be the lamest reason to not to date someone "you work too much" really? Excuse me, maybe I shold be uemployed. As long as you make an honest effort to see them then everything should be fine.
- June 20th, 2009, 04:27 am
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