suz_e is offline suz_e Post #1  June 18,2009, 2:30pm
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Hi All,

I have been a paying member of EH for 6 months now and haven't had alot of success. I've been out on two dates but neither led to a 2nd date---one was my decision not to and the other was his.

I think that part of the problem is that I seem to be matched with alot of non-paying members. When I start communication, I get no response and close after 2+ weeks of no response.

Here is what I have in my profile - I am a 28 yr old female. Any suggestions that you have about how I may be able to improve my profile woudl be greatly appreciated!

What are you most passionate about?
I love travelling. During college, I studied in London and was able to visit seven different European Countries. Belgium and Italy are on my favorites list. I have also been to 31 US States and several cities in Mexico. I think my favorite thing about travelling is being able to experience a way of life that is in most cases, different than my own.
What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
My family
All of the great opportunities that I have had in my life.
My friends.
Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
Almost everyone who I have met in my life is influential in one way or another. That being said, my grandma is definitely on the top of this list. She has been very instrumental in creating ways for the family to get together on a regular basis. Her influence has allowed my family to create awesome memories and great family traditions.
The four things your friends say about you are:
· Easy-Going
· Good Listener
· Dependable
· Genuine
What are three of your BEST life-skills?
· Maintaining a network of close friends
· Finding creative solutions to everyday problems
· Maintaining an organized life
What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
The ability to cooperate. In any type of relationship, cooperation is really important. I don’t want to say compromise because that means that someone is giving something up. To me, cooperation in a relationship is the ability to work together to make each individual a better person when they are together than when they are apart.
Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
I spend alot more time listening than talking when meeting someone new. But that starts to shift from more listening to more talking as I get to know someone.
What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
I grew up in a small town where almost everyone knew everything about everyone else. For that reason, I like being able to keep things to myself and not have everyone notice everything about who I am right away. With that said, I think my final answer is: nothing. I like the process of getting to know someone without them making judgements based on family members, something that happened in middle school, etc.
How do you typically spend your leisure time?
My favorite activity in the summer is being able to go to my family's cabin. There is something relaxing about being away from the busy-ness of everyday life. I love being able to lose track of time, to sit out on the boat, to be able to see the stars at night, and to spend time with my family and friends at the cabin. I also like to golf and rollarblade. During the winter, I spend alot of my time hanging out with friends at happy hours, game nights, and nights out.
What are five things that you "can't live without?"
My phone.
My email.
My job ( I work to live but don’t live to work)
Caffeine
Vacation Time.
Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
I am in an MBA program right now so for the last few years the only books that I have read are business related and are class assignments. Ask me this question again in about a year. I’ll have a better answer then…
 
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Hi Suz_e,

I read through your answers and the first thing I thought:

If I were matched with a man who listed 'phone, email & job' as 3/5 Can't Live Without items, I would close him. This is a purely personal preference on my part, as I would interpret that he is so focused on work, that he listed three items relating to work as his Can't Live Without items. (As I said purely personal preference as I rarely use the phone or email when I'm not working!)

Re Q1, be aware that men don't like to read about a woman who likes to travel. There are several threads on this topic! Travel is important to you and that's great, what I would suggest is that you consider pulling out a specific travel example (the experience, what you learned or enjoyed) and write about this. The more I re-read your Q1 answer, I'm kinda thinking your passion isn't travel, it's about life and living life and experiencing new things.

Re Q3, I don't know why, but when you talk about your Grandma, I am reminded of your last sentence in your Q1 answer. Love of life and life experiences popping up again perhaps? Possibly you could re-write to focus only on Grandma and provide one such memory you are happy to share in your profile.

Finally, there have been some workshops on some of the Profile Questions (we're up to Q7), they are in this section, may be worth your while to go and have a squiz through those. Some very good advice given to me and others in those workshop threads.
 
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suz_e is offline suz_e Post #3  June 18,2009, 7:15pm
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Thank you so much! I will definitely look into those suggestions.

Thanks again!
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How about this for "what am I most passionate about"?

I am passionate about continuing to learn and experiencing new things. Continuing my education has been an important focus in the last few years as I finish an MBA. Although very tedious at times, I know that my understanding of the world around me has increased dramatically. Not to mention this has been a very interesting time in history to be discussing business, economic, and political issues in class. I also like to try new things including restaurants, travel destinations, sports, and hobbies. I am usually willing to try new things at least once. That’s how I ended up liking sushi, golf, and rollerblading.
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Spell check!
 
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SMRTRTHNU wrote :
Spell check!
Can you be more specific about the spelling problems? I type everything in Word and checked over spelling/grammer because that bugs me too---I am not seeing the errors.

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I also changed my "can't live without" items to:

-My phone to communicate with friends and family.
-My favorite pillow.
-My job (I work to live but don't live to work).
-Special events that create great memories.
-Vacation time.

Thoughts?
 
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suz_e wrote :
Can you be more specific about the spelling problems? I type everything in Word and checked over spelling/grammer because that bugs me too---I am not seeing the errors.

Suz_e
Sorry Suz e....It was more of a generalization, but you did spell traveling and rollerblade incorrectly. ( Not to mention grammar in the above quote )

I really think eHarmony should include spell check on the profile page. I'm not going to win any spelling bees, but it does throw me off when things jump out like that.
 
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First, It's too long. I honestly quit reading a few of the answers due to the sheer volume. Shorten your answers to give readers an urge to want to know more. Second, your answer on the what people don't notice about you doesn't make sense in parts. You may want to think about revising a bit. Third, the grandma, caffeine, and phone have to go. Do you realize how many profiles I come across with the same??? Finally, spice it up; add some humor.
 
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suz_e,

Overall, I think your profile is good. The only thing that I would change is the answer to "What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?"

I get your answer, but I think it is probably a little too confusing.

Personally, since I love to travel as well, I like it when someone puts travel as their passion. But that's just me. I also don't think that there is anything wrong with listing your grandma as being the most influential person in your life. No one in their right mind is going to be bothered by that; plus if it's the truth, I think it's best to put it.

I also don't think that your answers are too long. I like it when someone has obviously put time and effort into their answers.
 
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