thedarknite is offline thedarknite Post #1  June 18,2009, 10:36am
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They are the ones that close you. LOL

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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #2  June 18,2009, 10:56am
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There is no sure-fire way to know if a member is non-paying. The best indicator is a combination of no photo and a very, very sparse profile. When I had a membership I closed those right away.
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #3  June 18,2009, 4:40pm
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When I first signed up as non-paying, I had a pic uploaded and my profile was completed except for Q8, which I left blank. Most of the matches I have received, their profiles have been mostly completed and with half a dozen pics. I belong to another dating site, which states what type of membership you have ... I like this, because it lets me know that if I choose to contact a man with Profile Membership, he will not be able to respond to me unless he signs up or purchases e-stamps.
 
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Yeah eHarmony should really add a note on whether someone is a paying member or not
 
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I wasn't aware that non paying members could post. That makes it confusing. Are the "matches" they send you from paying members?
 
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It would be great to know this, rather than wasting time communicating,thus enticing non-payers to sign up. Agree with the No photo/sparse profile indicators
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There is no sure-fire way to know if a member is non-paying. The best indicator is a combination of no photo and a very, very sparse profile. When I had a membership I closed those right away.
 
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I agree that their should be a way to tell the difference between paying and non-paying members. I even once e-mailed a message to customer support suggesting this idea. They e-mailed me back saying that paid and non-paying members are nearly the same and that non-paying members are quick to sign up for the service. In my experience, I couldn't disagree with them more; I've had before what appeared to be some great matches sometimes sitting around open for a few months with no response to my initiative to start communication. Hmmm. I wonder why?

Perhaps if enough people e-mailed customer support and complained about this dilemma, maybe EH will perk up and listen to us! Amen to that!

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JFo is offline JFo Post #8  June 20,2009, 8:35am
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I've said this before and I'll say it again. It doesn't matter whether or not someone is a non-paying member who can't respond to you or is a paying member who just isn't interested in you. Either way the result is the same. The match doesn't go anywhere and you're better off not spending a lot of time or energy worrying about it.

Besides, the so-called non-paying member always has the option of paying for a membership if they really want to communicate.
 
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JFo wrote :
I've said this before and I'll say it again. It doesn't matter whether or not someone is a non-paying member who can't respond to you or is a paying member who just isn't interested in you. Either way the result is the same. The match doesn't go anywhere and you're better off not spending a lot of time or energy worrying about it.

Besides, the so-called non-paying member always has the option of paying for a membership if they really want to communicate.
I totally agree with you JoFo, I don't know why people don't understand this. I think a lot of people just can't face the fact that online dating is NOT a 100% guarantee that of meeting and dating a large amount of people. It is a numbers game. By paying a fee you have access to POSSIBLY contacting the members.
 
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When I first signed up as non-paying, I had a pic uploaded and my profile was completed except for Q8, which I left blank. Most of the matches I have received, their profiles have been mostly completed and with half a dozen pics. I belong to another dating site, which states what type of membership you have ... I like this, because it lets me know that if I choose to contact a man with Profile Membership, he will not be able to respond to me unless he signs up or purchases e-stamps.
Which site is this?
 
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