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thedarknite is offline thedarknite Post #1  June 17,2009, 5:05pm
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How do you feel about dating someone with kids? I've never thought about it, but I guess I wouldn't mind.
I switched my settings to accept matches with kids and boy did the matches come rolling in.
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I screened for “no children” and “does not want children.”
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thedarkknight wrote :
How do you feel about dating someone with kids? I've never thought about it, but I guess I wouldn't mind.
I switched my settings to accept matches with kids and boy did the matches come rolling in.
I go back and forth in my head over this. I know I would get much more matches if I change my settings to accept matches with children and I like most kids (I do not like "bratty" kids). But the settings don't limit the number of kids a match has and there is no telling what the quality of the relationship is between the father and the children much less of the mother. That is my dilemma and I will probably keep my settings at no children.
 
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Pacesetter, Don't close yourself off when it comes to children! If you find a match that you like and she has children, she might be of your age group and had her children young! They could be 20 years old and not "kids" anymore! I think you should open yourself up to that and if they are young children then make your decision, but you should still give the lady a chance! She just might think you're a "Big Kid"! LOL
 
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I am happy to date a man with children. I think that there are a lot of dynamics to consider though and would not be prepared to enter a long term, serious relationship without some sort of discussion first. Recently, I went over to a male friend's house, he is separated and has 50% custody. His small son was there and he sat in his chair and glanced at me from the corner of his eye occasionally. He answered direct questions, but addressed them to his Dad. Just a tad shy then! Now, my friend and I aren't dating .. but I could see immediately even from a friendship perspective, you can't just barge in and hope to establish and maintain good rapport with the kids.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;645719]I screened for “no children” and “does not want children.”
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Yeah, I didn't even think of the Dad's. That's a whole other ball of wax.
 
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Imustbecrazy wrote :
Pacesetter, Don't close yourself off when it comes to children! If you find a match that you like and she has children, she might be of your age group and had her children young! They could be 20 years old and not "kids" anymore! I think you should open yourself up to that and if they are young children then make your decision, but you should still give the lady a chance! She just might think you're a "Big Kid"! LOL
That's true, I guess if the right girl came along then it wouldnt matter.
 
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meri75 wrote :
I'm very curious: if you see no future, why would you be prepared to invest in a relationship?

I think you misintepreted my post? I meant that I see no possibility in a serious relationship with someone with children, therefore I do not consider them even for dating.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
I think you misintepreted my post? I meant that I see no possibility in a serious relationship with someone with children, therefore I do not consider them even for dating.
Oh right ... I thought you were going somewhere else entirely with your post and was a bit bothered by the 'bleakness' part I wrongly thought I was picking up!
 
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