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LereleiLee is offline LereleiLee Post #1  June 16,2009, 8:18pm
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What safety plans do you use when going on a first (or second, or third, or...) date? I have agreements with a few friends. The first friend is married to a retired cop, and for the first date she and her husband insist on knowing a) his first and last name, b) his phone number, c) where I am meeting him and d) from when to when we are meeting. I must make contact with her at a certain time during the date (she calls or I call), and if we miss each other and I don't call her within an hour, he promised to send some of his police friends just to make sure I am OK. For second through fifth dates, they just want to know where and when, and to hear from me at the end of it. It may be overkill, but it is good to be loved.

My second friend wants to know when I expect to be home, and I must call or text her within an hour of that time. That is for first through third dates. After that she's less worried.

I never go to his house right away, and always try to meet him in a public place for the first couple of dates, even someplace that is 'public' but where privacy can be found, like the botanic gardens.

What do others do to be safe when meeting a match for the first time, or first few times?
 
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Although I am married I have advised one or two women concerning this issue. Sometime during the date I would take a picture of his car and license plate then at the first opportunity send it to a friend or family member. I would also try to get a picture of him and do the same about sending it.
 
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Staying in public areas and not handing out personal information, is probably the smartest thing you can do, and truthfully this should be practiced by the guys as well, I mean you never know if the girl might be a knife wielding psycho
 
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Meeting at secluded parks at night time of course.

Yes, initially meeting in public is a good idea. Regarding the transition of going to someone's home; I'd suggest go with another couple. Probably stay away from alcohol. If the guy has "Hewey Lewis & The News" playing and a raincoat nearby; I suggest you leave...
 
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NathanCM wrote :
9mm at a minimum, preferably a 45acp...
you try fitting that into a teeny dressy evening purse.

meeting in a public place is great, and so is have a backup mid-date and post date phone call, but another little tip is to not let your date walk you to your car. a few of my friends have done this and it makes no sense. you go through the trouble of meeting in a public place, making a friend sit on pins and needles ready to fly out the door and call SWAT to rescue you, and you let a stranger take you out into a dark parking lot?

the best defense IMO is a good offense. if at any time before or during the date you get a bad vibe don't go, or use your backup to get out of the situation and drive to friends house, not your own. Intuition should never be ignored.
 
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Although I am married I have advised one or two women concerning this issue. Sometime during the date I would take a picture of his car and license plate then at the first opportunity send it to a friend or family member. I would also try to get a picture of him and do the same about sending it.
wow....lol....this is enlightening.....
I've had several dates where the guys complained about these psycho women who were trying to take his photo.....we were both scratching our heads wondering what was up with that....lol.....now I know....
 
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i'm going to start darting and tagging my dates with GPS collars.
 
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angelofmerci wrote :
Although I am married I have advised one or two women concerning this issue. Sometime during the date I would take a picture of his car and license plate then at the first opportunity send it to a friend or family member. I would also try to get a picture of him and do the same about sending it.
This is kind of creepy, don't you think?
 
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