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I sent a match I'm interested in a list of questions and received a list in return. In the communication section it states "Your match is reading your answers." This message showed up almost immediately after I posted my response. Since that time I haven't had any further communication. How do I know if there is a glitch in eH system or not?
- June 16th, 2009, 08:45 am
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No glitch...that's the standard reply that you get after you send anything through guided communication. You don't mention how long it has been since you posted your response, but remember that it does take time for people to reply, especially with it being summer and with people going on vacations. On the flip side, if it's been a few weeks it could be that the person you are communicating with is pursuing other matches, and also, not everyone is courteous enough to close out matches if they are no longer interested.

Hope this helps!
- June 16th, 2009, 09:02 am
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As brneyedangel said you get the message that your match is reading ... every time you send something.

If it has been quite a while since you sent the communication then it is likely that they are not that interested in you. If it has only been a day or three then you just need to be patient while they consider your answers and then send you the next step.

You should be sending First Questions to all your matches that are at least of some interest to you.
- June 16th, 2009, 01:08 pm
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Hi Canadagoose,

Just to clarify – when you send the first set of questions in Guided Communication, under the Next Steps column on your Communicating tab, you will see “Waiting for his (or her) Answers”. Once the match clicks on the communication you sent, in the same place you will see “Your match is reading your answers”. This means that they have clicked on it, but haven’t finished their part of responding to the communication.

As it’s already been said, it’s normal for matches to read the message and wait a little to respond.

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- June 16th, 2009, 04:17 pm
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OK I had never seen that message on any of my other communications. Thanks for the clarification.

- June 16th, 2009, 09:33 pm
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