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PrettyPeepers is offline PrettyPeepers Post #1  June 14,2009, 8:25pm
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Hi everyone. I'm new to eHarmony Canada. I started on Thursday. I've received 16 matches so far and I've noticed that most of them haven't bothered to look at my profile. Is that typical? Is it normal not to log in every day? Do people get bored with this process and just quit but not close their profiles?

I'm frustrated with this because I am being sent about 5 - 6 matches a day and only 5 have viewed my profile. I'm considering cancelling my membership tomorrow. This is an expensive membership and if this lack of viewing/responses is typical I am not satified with that. I was hoping at least one person would respond by now. I've started communications with 4 matches and none of them have responded yet they've viewed my profile. Is that typical too?

Sorry if I sound like I'm whining. I just want to get a feel from people what their experiences have been in this regard. If there is another thread covering this, sorry. Please point me in the right direction.

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pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #2  June 14,2009, 9:11pm
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Hi, I created a thread also on "using eHarmony" on May 29th. It was titled "profile not being viewed". You may want to refer to it and the posts - including mine - that followed.

As I wrote somewhere else, in my experience about 90 to 95% of your matches will not be active paying subscribers.

If I can give you a little advice: Don't think about canceling yet; you will not get a refund. - Leave yourself open to the possibility of meeting someone from the U.S. as I have done with someone from Canada. We have not met yet, BUT we at least have skype with webcam, which you should think about getting for any possible LDRs. [Canada itself is a big country.] - You have to be patient; I was on eH almost half a year before I started communicating with my LDR.

Seeing your picture and reading your advice profile, you will get a lot more interested and interesting matches than I did at the beginning.
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Welcome to eharmony and eha!

I think it would mainly be people new to the site that would login daily. The system will send you an email if a match requests communication. I'll generally login in a few times a week or daily if in communication with a match.

It's typical that sometimes you'll get a lot of responses and other times a dry spell. Also some people view your profile anonymously but don't close the match. Generally I'll wait about 2 weeks to a month and then close out the ones that don't respond.

Give the system a chance and take breaks as needed. It's one of those things that is best used as one opportunity to meet someone and not the only method.

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PrettyPeepers wrote :
Hi everyone. I'm new to eHarmony Canada. I started on Thursday. I've received 16 matches so far and I've noticed that most of them haven't bothered to look at my profile. Is that typical? Is it normal not to log in every day? Do people get bored with this process and just quit but not close their profiles?

I'm frustrated with this because I am being sent about 5 - 6 matches a day and only 5 have viewed my profile. I'm considering cancelling my membership tomorrow. This is an expensive membership and if this lack of viewing/responses is typical I am not satified with that. I was hoping at least one person would respond by now. I've started communications with 4 matches and none of them have responded yet they've viewed my profile. Is that typical too?

Sorry if I sound like I'm whining. I just want to get a feel from people what their experiences have been in this regard. If there is another thread covering this, sorry. Please point me in the right direction.

Thanks.
As has already been mentioned a high percentage of your matches will be non-paying members who can't communicate. I also believe that most non-paying members are not active. I, too, have found that 90% plus fall into this category. It has been my experience that this is the case on all the other dating sites that I have been on (Match, Yahoo! Personals and POF).

Some questions for you to consider to answer some of your other points.

1. If you are getting 5 - 6 matches a day and you have only contacted 4 then you should have a lot of matches that you could contact. It is a numbers game, the more people you contact the more likely someone will respond.

2. If you were to be trying to meet single guys in person how many would you have to approach before you actually found one that would be interested in actually seeing you again? To carry this question further, how many guys do you see in your everyday life before you actually meet one. At least with eHarmony and other reputable dating sites you have some confidence that the guys you are getting matched to are single and looking to date and form a relationship.

3. You say that eHarmony is expensive. How much would you be spending if you were out on the town seeking to meet guys? Probably a lot more than you spend on eHarmony.
 
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Welcome to EH & EHA!

There is an expectation with the EH that you will marry your first match. Unfortunately, EH doesn't have a warehouse of "Stepford Wives" waiting to wind up and send out.

EH is just a process of sifting for gold. You have to look at a lot of sand!

How to succeed with EH:

1. Plan that it's going to take months or years, not weeks or days.
2. Don't worry about any particular match (whether they are looking at you, whether they are answering your questions) until into Open Communications.
3. Have good pictures (head shot and full length) visible to everyone.
4. If you like the looks of a match, send questions.
5. Examine all your settings. Try to up these to just outside your comfort zone.
 
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lookin4lovexo is offline lookin4lovexo Post #6  July 12,2009, 11:49pm

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What does not make sense to me is why they don't even bother to look at the profile. I am aware that they are not paying and unable to communicate... but why can't they at least look at the profile?
Then you say they are "inactive"...well if they are inactive why did I just get matched with them recently(past couple of days) and not the first day I signed up if I have not changed my settings? If they are truly inactive I would assume E Harmony would match me up with them the day I signed up. New members are getting matched with me daily not old ones...right?
 
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lookin4lovexo wrote :
Then you say they are "inactive"...well if they are inactive why did I just get matched with them recently(past couple of days) and not the first day I signed up if I have not changed my settings? If they are truly inactive I would assume E Harmony would match me up with them the day I signed up. New members are getting matched with me daily not old ones...right?
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So the day we sign up we do not get matched up with all of our matches? Every day they send us a couple more, some of which are old members(that were saved and not matched with us right away)? If this is the case, that is really bad on Eharmony's part.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
It has been my experience that this is the case on all the other dating sites that I have been on (Match, Yahoo! Personals and POF).
The difference on those sites is that you can see who is online and get a sense of who the active users are by watching the traffic. eHarmony gives you no indication of how many of your matches actually use the site and are able to communicate.

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3. You say that eHarmony is expensive. How much would you be spending if you were out on the town seeking to meet guys? Probably a lot more than you spend on eHarmony.
Again, you would be meeting real people and not looking at dead profiles. It may be more expensive, but you can communicate with them and filter them in real time. Not to mention, you'd be doing something fun instead of sitting in front of a computer. So there's a tangible return on investment whether you find a match or not.

I think it's a bit disingenuous of eHarmony to match paying members with dead profiles. We pay with the expectation that others will be paying too.
 
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rusli is offline rusli Post #10  July 13,2009, 5:44am
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I'm very disappointed in the number of matches that I'm getting. I haven't received a match in ages and the people that I did start communication with did not respond. I was one of the non paying members for a long time and a few months ago I thought that maybe if I was a paying member I would have a bit more luck. At least if anyone did contact me, I'd be able to respond. Since I've started paying 3 months ago, I have had a lot less activity in my account. I've even tried changing my profile, changing my settings, etc., etc., and still nothing. I've already paid for the full year so I'll stick it out til then but I will not be renewing.
 
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