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Terizz is offline Terizz Post #1  April 28,2008, 8:17pm
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Anyone else find it funny when someone closes for a reason such as "I think our family backgrounds are too different" when they haven't even veiwed your profile. I had one today that closed stating that very reason, and I found it kind of odd being that I don't mention anything about my family background in my profile. So I looked at his profile to see if I could pen point any thing that maybe something different in the family background area, but there was nothing stated in his profile about his family either other than he was thankful for them, which I believe I also put in my profile. Then I went to look at who has viewed me, and he hadn't even looked at my profile. So I just thought that was kind of commical. I also get the "I don't feel there was any chemistry" from people who have never viewed my profile.
 
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Terizz, wrote :
Anyone else find it funny when someone closes for a reason such as "I think our family backgrounds are too different" when they haven't even veiwed your profile. I had one today that closed stating that very reason, and I found it kind of odd being that I don't mention anything about my family background in my profile. So I looked at his profile to see if I could pen point any thing that maybe something different in the family background area, but there was nothing stated in his profile about his family either other than he was thankful for them, which I believe I also put in my profile. Then I went to look at who has viewed me, and he hadn't even looked at my profile. So I just thought that was kind of commical. I also get the "I don't feel there was any chemistry" from people who have never viewed my profile.
Maybe he viewed you anonymously?
 
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Lookn4Love,92470 wrote :
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Anyone else find it funny when someone closes for a reason such as "I think our family backgrounds are too different" when they haven't even veiwed your profile. I had one today that closed stating that very reason, and I found it kind of odd being that I don't mention anything about my family background in my profile. So I looked at his profile to see if I could pen point any thing that maybe something different in the family background area, but there was nothing stated in his profile about his family either other than he was thankful for them, which I believe I also put in my profile. Then I went to look at who has viewed me, and he hadn't even looked at my profile. So I just thought that was kind of commical. I also get the "I don't feel there was any chemistry" from people who have never viewed my profile.
Maybe he viewed you anonymously?
No it doesn't show any anonymous views for the day.
 
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Terizz,92494 wrote :
Lookn4Love,92470 wrote :
Terizz, wrote :
Anyone else find it funny when someone closes for a reason such as "I think our family backgrounds are too different" when they haven't even veiwed your profile. I had one today that closed stating that very reason, and I found it kind of odd being that I don't mention anything about my family background in my profile. So I looked at his profile to see if I could pen point any thing that maybe something different in the family background area, but there was nothing stated in his profile about his family either other than he was thankful for them, which I believe I also put in my profile. Then I went to look at who has viewed me, and he hadn't even looked at my profile. So I just thought that was kind of commical. I also get the "I don't feel there was any chemistry" from people who have never viewed my profile.
Maybe he viewed you anonymously?
No it doesn't show any anonymous views for the day.
Anonymous views are usually shown from the last 2wks. It doesn't show which views in a particular day. Maybe they made their impressions from the brief synopsis that eHarmony e-mails to them?
 
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Lookn4Love,92584 wrote :
Anonymous views are usually shown from the last 2wks. It doesn't show which views in a particular day. Maybe they made their impressions from the brief synopsis that eHarmony e-mails to them?
True, it doesn't show for "that day". However, if you remember how many anonymous views you had from the day before, it's easy to figure out.

Also... for someone to "close", they have to open your profile. Thus it's a "view". Unless there is some other way to close the profile without looking at it that I'm not aware of.



I've made mention before that I don't think their "viewing" is working accurately. (like some other things!)



It seems "odd" to me that sometimes when a person closes and says "other" that you can not send a "final message" but other times you can.
 
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I think once someone closes you out their "viewing" of you doesn't register. I've noticed that, for example, if a guy who viewed me yesterday closed me today, even his view from yesterday disappears from the "who's viewed me" list.
 
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goldenslover,92617 wrote :
It seems "odd" to me that sometimes when a person closes and says "other" that you can not send a "final message" but other times you can.
Check those out more closely--you'll probably find that on the ones where you can't send a final message, there's no date/time stamp. Sometimes you'll see this:

On January 02, 2008, 08:11AM PST Angela chose to permanently close communication with you for the following reason(s):

...and sometimes you'll see this:

On Angela chose to permanently close communication with you for the following reason(s):

I haven't been able to figure out why the difference is there. I'm guessing they were somehow removed from the system, but the only time I know of that happening I got an e-mail about it from eHarmony.
 
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danb35,92653 wrote :
goldenslover,92617 wrote :
It seems "odd" to me that sometimes when a person closes and says "other" that you can not send a "final message" but other times you can.
Check those out more closely--you'll probably find that on the ones where you can't send a final message, there's no date/time stamp. Sometimes you'll see this:

On January 02, 2008, 08:11AM PST Angela chose to permanently close communication with you for the following reason(s):

...and sometimes you'll see this:

On Angela chose to permanently close communication with you for the following reason(s):

I haven't been able to figure out why the difference is there. I'm guessing they were somehow removed from the system, but the only time I know of that happening I got an e-mail about it from eHarmony.
Maybe there is a diffrence between paid members and non-paid members closing out process?
 
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BILLGOLF,92715 wrote :
Maybe there is a diffrence between paid members and non-paid members closing out process?
Non-paids can close matches?!
 
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goldenslover,92617 wrote :
Lookn4Love,92584 wrote :
Anonymous views are usually shown from the last 2wks. It doesn't show which views in a particular day. Maybe they made their impressions from the brief synopsis that eHarmony e-mails to them?
True, it doesn't show for "that day". However, if you remember how many anonymous views you had from the day before, it's easy to figure out.

Also... for someone to "close", they have to open your profile. Thus it's a "view". Unless there is some other way to close the profile without looking at it that I'm not aware of.



I've made mention before that I don't think their "viewing" is working accurately. (like some other things!)



It seems "odd" to me that sometimes when a person closes and says "other" that you can not send a "final message" but other times you can.
Yeah, all you said makes sense. I also agree that the anonymous view counter is not working. My profile has been saying 2 anonymous views in the last 2 weeks for the last 2 wks. However, I know this anonymous number must be higher, based on the number of matches that have sent a wink, nudge or closed out matches.
 
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