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I'm new to the boards, but have been on eH for about 6 months, during which I had matches turned off for approx 2.5 months. Perhaps it is the nature of the beast, but it seems many people on the boards are frustrated, or not getting good results with eH. My experience is the opposite. In well over 600 matches I've reached open communication with about 30 men. Some of them have closed me, others I have closed. Sometimes it is after a few dates that I tell them I see no potentia; and I've closed many others before OC, when I see the MHCS list. Some men were a bit loco, others looking for Mrs. Right Now. Currently I am in OC with several men. I haven't met 'that special someone', but none have 'poofed' or turned out to be outright liars.

Am I the anomaly? Perhaps it is human nature to post questions when one is not having a good experience. Perhaps 30 out of 600+ isn't a great average on eH.
- June 12th, 2009, 09:04 pm
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Yeah, that's horrible.

But seriously, 600+ in 6 months, with 30 OCs = good. I've got 4 months on eHa with only 40 matches total and zero communication, not even a question answered. My average isn't good, yours is outstanding.
- June 12th, 2009, 09:13 pm
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Blackadder wrote :
Yeah, that's horrible.

But seriously, 600+ in 6 months, with 30 OCs = good. I've got 4 months on eHa with only 40 matches total and zero communication, not even a question answered. My average isn't good, yours is outstanding.
Hey man, do you want a silver lining? I've been on eH (today's my last day) for 9 months and have had 300+ matches. Out of those matches, I've had 40-50 (off the top of my head) where I've gotten to OC and they've poofed, suddenly closed, or just plain flaked out on me. Maybe it's what I was doing, but I got the feeling that I was always the safety net guy. By this I mean that all of these matches thought I was ok/good but not great, so they kept me on the line until things started to work out w/ someone they thought was great. Then they poofed/closed/flaked. Anyway, your silver lining: at least you're getting closed out with minimal investment rather than wasting countless hours on communicating with matches who end up closing or blowing you off anyway.
- June 12th, 2009, 10:17 pm
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I disagree, cfibl. At least you've had the chance to make an impression. I'm in the same boat as Blackadder - after about 40 matches, I've closed out 25, been closed out five times, and I'm staring at a couple new matches... but I've yet to receive any communication or responses.
- June 13th, 2009, 01:04 am
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yes, you are the anomaly.
- June 13th, 2009, 01:32 am
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Sooo...the prospect is not good on eH?..sad.
- June 13th, 2009, 06:55 am
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You're not the only one....I also had a great experience on EH. Not currently on it now (dating one of my matches) but when I was a member I received lots of quality matches (I think about 8 matches a day.) and communicated with many. I put a lot work into profile so my matches got a good sense of the real me.

For some of us it does work.
- June 13th, 2009, 10:52 am
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LakesOfFire wrote :
I disagree, cfibl. At least you've had the chance to make an impression. I'm in the same boat as Blackadder - after about 40 matches, I've closed out 25, been closed out five times, and I'm staring at a couple new matches... but I've yet to receive any communication or responses.
I suppose you're right. My overall experience was probably better, but I think it was also more frustrating.

You and Adder probably have a high amount of non-paying members, hence the lack of response. You should probably open up your search criteria a little and see if that helps.
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Fancypantz wrote :
You're not the only one....I also had a great experience on EH. Not currently on it now (dating one of my matches) but when I was a member I received lots of quality matches (I think about 8 matches a day.) and communicated with many. I put a lot work into profile so my matches got a good sense of the real me.

For some of us it does work.
I put in my profile my Advice screen name and a suggestion that they might want to check out the Advice site to get an idea of what I am all about. None have taken me up on the offer.
- June 13th, 2009, 07:47 pm
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Since we mostly only see posts from people who are dissatisfied with eHarmony it is hard to say if you are an anomaly or not. Certainly with respect to those posting on the Advice boards you are. However if you look at 30 out of 600 as a percentage it is not very good. But if you look at it as 30 in 6 months then that works out to about one a week which would be pretty good results.
And if you meet "the one" it does not matter how many matches you had or closed. You have had success.
- June 13th, 2009, 07:52 pm
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