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There are other threads here about height ... you're definitely not alone in your curiosity! Height isn't an issue with me, as I'm 5'3. Most blokes are taller than me, my preference is actually around 5'8; but it is the quality of the man and not his height which secures my attraction.
- June 18th, 2009, 12:43 am
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Maybe think about the reasons why you close matches, and that might give you some insights as to the possible reasons why others might close you as a match. I think that it could be your height, although that would not be a reason for me to close a match. 5'8" is not all that short. Maybe you could "change" your height on your profile, and see if fewer women closed your match...then you would know you were right, but you'd be in the double bind of having "lied" on your profile. You'd have to explain that away on the first date, or wear elevator shoes, I guess!! Seriously, life's too short to wonder why someone closes a match. That will not get you very far, in my opinion. They either like you or they don't, and many times it has nothing to do with anything more than the person's own thoughts at the moment they read your profile. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find the woman of your dreams asap!!
- June 18th, 2009, 01:39 am
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Hey Sharebear1, thanks for your insight. I know its about the person and whats inside, but I think you can only wow them with your personality in person. I kinda got the feeling that some women would just look at the height and it would be an instant close. They wouldn't even bother looking at my profile. You're right ,I shouldn't care about who closes me at all.
Best of luck to you too.
- June 18th, 2009, 02:06 am
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I'm 5'8, so I see it working the other way all the time, too. I'll see a cute guy has looked at my profile, read his and think "Wow, why didnt he think we'd get along?" Then I see his height and realize it might have been the height issue.

Then again, it could be just about anything. I just had a guy email me yesterday that is an inch shorter than I am. I had looked at his profile and thought he seemed like a really great guy, someone I would definitely be interested in, but his profile states he never watches TV. Sorry, after walking 90 miles a week just for work and fighting pittbulls all day, I need to just veg. He also asked those who work 6 or 7 days a week not to bother contacting him, and I do. Not willingly, but I do. If I just say No Thanks, I guarante he'll think it's his height, and maybe a year or so ago he would have been right. So I figure I'll email him and fess up about my TV and "money to buy food" addiction.
- June 19th, 2009, 05:55 pm
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I've never closed on a man for height. The reasons I close are almost always related to the content of his profile and of his photos (but NOT his looks, just some content turns me off immediately, one example would be a shirt that says "I <3 Hot Moms"). I'm pretty open in getting matched, and even communicate with people who don't have photos.
- June 19th, 2009, 08:27 pm
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I'm new here.....just a warning! I don't think it is your height. Maybe there wasn't this click or something in your profile that did not grab your attention like theirs did to you. Females are weird creatures.
- June 19th, 2009, 09:27 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
I'm 5'8, so I see it working the other way all the time, too. I'll see a cute guy has looked at my profile, read his and think "Wow, why didnt he think we'd get along?" Then I see his height and realize it might have been the height issue.

Then again, it could be just about anything. I just had a guy email me yesterday that is an inch shorter than I am. I had looked at his profile and thought he seemed like a really great guy, someone I would definitely be interested in, but his profile states he never watches TV. Sorry, after walking 90 miles a week just for work and fighting pittbulls all day, I need to just veg. He also asked those who work 6 or 7 days a week not to bother contacting him, and I do. Not willingly, but I do. If I just say No Thanks, I guarante he'll think it's his height, and maybe a year or so ago he would have been right. So I figure I'll email him and fess up about my TV and "money to buy food" addiction.
Yeah you are right. I have to admit to closing one match because her height was 5'11. Not because I was intimidated but I figured Id save her the trouble.
- June 20th, 2009, 04:00 am
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Here is a different view. I am a bit under six feet tall – not very big in a family where most of the men are at least six feet and one brother is 6'4" and 240 pounds (of muscle).

Years ago I had a wonderful relationship with a woman who was 6'1" and probably over 150 pounds. She had played basketball in college and was a bank officer when I knew her – and very active and in great shape. In heels she was a lot taller than me. We made it a point to go places with her in substantial heels. It was interesting to watch the reactions we generated – particularly among young males.

 I kidded that the only way I could get even was in a reclining position (and even then, her chest was "taller" than mine).

It was very obvious that she didn't think any less of me for being shorter than her – and I certainly wasn't intimidated by her height (or by the fact that she was about my equal in wrestling). We probably should have gotten married.

I have also had relationships with a couple women who were five feet tall or less.

What I am saying is height doesn't matter unless the people involved make it matter. One of the best men have ever known is an inch or two over five feet tall – with a giant mind (a widely respected retired military, college professor, research scientist). He carries himself "as a big man" in every respect.

Attitude is everything – but then, attitude can't be shown in profiles – or can it?
- June 20th, 2009, 08:01 am
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JDavid wrote :
Here is a different view. I am a bit under six feet tall – not very big in a family where most of the men are at least six feet and one brother is 6'4" and 240 pounds (of muscle).

Years ago I had a wonderful relationship with a woman who was 6'1" and probably over 150 pounds. She had played basketball in college and was a bank officer when I knew her – and very active and in great shape. In heels she was a lot taller than me. We made it a point to go places with her in substantial heels. It was interesting to watch the reactions we generated – particularly among young males.

I kidded that the only way I could get even was in a reclining position (and even then, her chest was "taller" than mine).

It was very obvious that she didn't think any less of me for being shorter than her – and I certainly wasn't intimidated by her height (or by the fact that she was about my equal in wrestling). We probably should have gotten married.

I have also had relationships with a couple women who were five feet tall or less.

What I am saying is height doesn't matter unless the people involved make it matter. One of the best men have ever known is an inch or two over five feet tall – with a giant mind (a widely respected retired military, college professor, research scientist). He carries himself "as a big man" in every respect.

Attitude is everything – but then, attitude can't be shown in profiles – or can it?
You said it, attitude can be shown in profiles. I think.
- June 20th, 2009, 11:50 pm
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