Do you use RelyID? Do you appreciate matches who use RelyID?


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Mr. Nice Guy is offline Mr. Nice Guy Post #1  June 10,2009, 8:56am
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I have RelyID on my eHarmony account, which is not a background check, but a verification that I am who I say I am. There have been times when I've been using eHarmony without RelyID and during such times it has been more difficult to get my matches to communicate with me. Now that I have RelyID, I get more communication from my matches. And yes, I do appreciate it when my matches use RelyID. It's not a have to for me, but I do feel a lot safer communicating with such matches, even though they seem to be few and far between.

So, to the pop the question once more. . . Do you use RelyID? Do you appreciate matches who use RelyID?
 
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DancingFool is offline DancingFool Post #2  June 10,2009, 9:33am
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No and I really don't care about it one way or another. Also, I do think that it gives people a false sense of security - this is not a guarantee that the match is not psycho and I still have to use my own common sense which is much more reliable than a checkmark by someone's name.
 
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It's no guarantee that the person isn't a psycho, but it reduces the chances that the person is a scammer.
 
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I don't think it really means much of anything.
 
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chibrook is offline chibrook Post #5  June 11,2009, 3:09am
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I used it and did appreciate matches who used it - because I figured those who did were more likely to be actually paying members and more invested in their quest to find "the one".
 
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No, I don't use it, because I don't understand it. It says it verifies that the person is who he says he is, but RelyID doesn't make a guarntee.
 
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chibrook is offline chibrook Post #7  June 11,2009, 4:48am
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I noticed you said you feel "safer" when someone uses it. As others said, the person could still be a psycho. But it's nice to see it because atleast you know their AGE is true. I think in this internet dating - no lie is more prevalent than portraying yourself as younger than you really are. Unfortunately, it doesn't check if one is still married .
 
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I don't have it myself-but I tend to believe that the men who do are in it for the right reasons and are not trying to scam me.
 
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Mr. Nice Guy is offline Mr. Nice Guy Post #9  June 11,2009, 5:19am
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chibrook wrote :
Unfortunately, it doesn't check if one is still married .
I think EH already checks for that automatically when you sign up as a member, and they do that for free!
 
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Rely ID is a “Premium Service”; by no means is there a requirement to purchase it, as many of you already know. It is intended to be one more way in which you can send the message to your matches that you are who you say you are. You are showing your intentionality in the process. You are acknowledging your matches’ concern for safety. With Rely ID, you are essentially saying you care about your matches’ need for finding someone trustworthy.

While Rely ID can be one informative factor for assessing a match, it’s not a good idea to lean on one detail on your match’s profile as the “deal-maker”. You should still pay attention to our Safety Tips (also known as Dr. Warren’s Message): http://www.eharmony.com/safety/tips and listen to your intuition.

Chibrook, sorry if you met some matches who were still married. As Mr. Nice Guy said, we do not allow members who are still married on the site, and we make this clear upfront. I know that you are (happily) no longer on the service, but for anyone who is, we encourage you to report this and all match concerns to matchconcerns@eharmony.com.

This is a great poll, Mr. Nice Guy. Hope you get more responses, because we are interested in members’ feedback as well!

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