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Drognar is offline Drognar Post #1  June 7,2009, 3:48pm
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Seriously should I just fast-track everyone because I can't get a single response out of any of the questions(first step) that I've sent. Most either just don't answer or close up before responding, a little help here?
 
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i think that you would get a greater response to your questions if you posted pictures and I am just assuming that you didn't because you didn't post any here.
 
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Reexamine the questions you're sending. They should be questions that, while important to you, people would be comfortable answering. Also, keep in mind that it's a numbers game. Just continue to send questions to matches who interest you.
 
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Stay with what you're doing; it won't help to request fast-track.

Have you noticed that most of your matches have not even viewed your profile? There is a good chance they are not active members, who didn't shut off receiving new matches. And even if they've viewed you, unless they are paid subscribers, they can't respond to you. From my own experience and reading other postings, probably only between 5 and 10% CAN respond. That is why you have to be patient.
 
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pussinboots wrote :
Stay with what you're doing; it won't help to request fast-track.

Have you noticed that most of your matches have not even viewed your profile? There is a good chance they are not active members, who didn't shut off receiving new matches. And even if they've viewed you, unless they are paid subscribers, they can't respond to you. From my own experience and reading other postings, probably only between 5 and 10% CAN respond. That is why you have to be patient.
So basically I'm just guessing who is subscribed and whos not? Isn't there some way to tell that in advance? I have over 200 matchs I don't need to send them all just to find who has an active subscribed member, thats absurd.
 
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So basically I'm just guessing who is subscribed and whos not? Isn't there some way to tell that in advance? I have over 200 matchs I don't need to send them all just to find who has an active subscribed member, thats absurd.
Unfortunately, there is no surefire way to tell if someone is a paid subscriber - probably the biggest complaint about eH. Of course, you should not be wasting your time to try and find that out. All I tried to explain for you was why you - or ANYONE - does not get back nearly as much responses for the effort put into it - and there are other reasons naturally.
 
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I don't know how to tell who's a paid member and who's not, either. I've inquired about that to eH, but I haven't received a response from eH.

But here's what I do know. The replies you've gotten so far is dead on the money. Many, if not, most of your matches won't respond: either because they aren't paid members, they are paid but aren't active, or they simply aren't interested. It is a numbers game. You would think at eH there would be better odds at getting responses. However, you have to play the hand your given. Continue to respond to the matches that interest you and to close out the ones that don't. You'll also find that even if you get through GC to OC, many will poof. I've been told by many other members that communication usually slows once OC is reached.

Hang in there, keep trying, and best of luck.

Fast tracking will likely yield the same results as what you're getting now. Many won't respond.
 
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I don't know how to tell who's a paid member and who's not, either. I've inquired about that to eH, but I haven't received a response from eH.

But here's what I do know. The replies you've gotten so far is dead on the money. Many, if not, most of your matches won't respond: either because they aren't paid members, they are paid but aren't active, or they simply aren't interested. It is a numbers game. You would think at eH there would be better odds at getting responses. However, you have to play the hand your given. Continue to respond to the matches that interest you and to close out the ones that don't. You'll also find that even if you get through GC to OC, many will poof. I've been told by many other members that communication usually slows once OC is reached.

Hang in there, keep trying, and best of luck.

Fast tracking will likely yield the same results as what you're getting now. Many won't respond.
I could not have expressed myself any better.
 
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Great points, all. We're all in that same boat. I admit it can be frustrating to watch that one attractive match in twenty fail to respond for days at a time... but we've already come this far, right?

I give matches a full week to respond to communication, and then I close the match. If their accounts are active but not paid, they can still request to re-open later. And if they're not keeping up with their accounts, then I've made room for another match who might be more vigilant.

Don't look back. Keep looking forward... and good luck.
 
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Drognar is offline Drognar Post #10  June 8,2009, 4:48am
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I guess the best way is to go by photo(which a lot of my matchs have). I mean why add photos if no one can see them?
 
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