eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 6: What is the most important quality you seek in another?


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It's time for another workshop!

We're skipping questions 4 and 5 since they are not free-from questions, so it's on to question 6:

"What is the most important quality you are looking for in another person?

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Workshop: Question 1: What are you most passionate about?
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=24399 (eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 1: "What Are You Most Passionate About?")

Workshop: Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=24755 (eHarmony Profile Workshop - Question 2: What are the THREE things for which you are MOST thankful?)

Workshop: Question 3: Who Has been most influential person in your life, and why?
http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/sh...ad.php?t=25135 (eHarmony Profile Workshop: Question 3: "Who has been most influential person in your life, & why?')
 
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Darn, I was about to ask "what happened to questions 4 and 5?"
 
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That he has practical integrity.
 
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“Practical” is not a usual modifier of “integrity,” therefore I think a definition / explanation is in order – does this mean I can suspend my integrity when practicality demands?
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I would have to save honesty is the most important quality I would want in another person. I know most couples try or do discuss how they are going to handle the major things before they get married, such as finances. To discuss these things and actually live up to what you agreed on are two different things.

A good example is agreeing to pool your earnings. Usually that just means adding a name to the checking and savings account and having new checks printed. Now let's say that one person gets laid off and has to take a lower paying job. Nothing exceptional about this so far. Now lets say that the person making the most starts taking the checkbook with them everywhere and the checking account statements so the other party does not know how much they have in the bank or savings at any one time. Next lets say that all of a sudden you start getting phone calls from creditors then you find out your mortgage company is foreclosing on you. It turns out that the one making more has been going hog wild on spending, has not been placing paying the bills first and keeping all this a secret from you. Honesty just went out the door and with it trust and possibly some of the love if not all the love.
 
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[quote=D_Lion;633316]“Practical” is not a usual modifier of “integrity,” therefore I think a definition / explanation is in order – does this mean I can suspend my integrity when practicality demands? Yes, possibly. Sometimes I think that possessing integrity gives you the ability to look carefully at a given situation and make a practical decision to act/respond in a tailored way. This has happened to me a few times ... it's not enough to say in situation XYZ I would do ABC and then be in that situation, realise that ABC is the wrong action and still do it! It might just be that I am using the wrong words to describe here what I am looking for (Which doesn't surprise me at all! LOL)
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meri75 wrote :
Um ... okay, now I am just scared that anyone would write something like this in their profile. This is akin to waving a huge red flag in my face!

This proves you haven't been using online dating very long!
 
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How about trying to expand this into a full paragraph with an explanation – I’m interested to see what you come up with. It is definitely a unique answer.
 
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A pulse. IE responds to icebreakers/questions etc....

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