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Mr. Nice Guy is offline Mr. Nice Guy Post #1  June 2,2009, 5:26am
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...most of my matches are no longer closing me out immediately after viewing my profile. Indeed, it is usually me who is the one that decides to close most of my matches, for whatever reason. It did not use to be that way. Some time ago, it was usually my matches that closed me out for whatever reason. But now, I have totally rewritten my profile from top to bottom and kept the same 4 photos of me that I have had for awhile now. It seems to be working well. My profile is in a sense, I guess, "perfect" for the kind of lady I am looking for, which by the way is a Godly Christian woman above all else.

Usually, what I do when I receive a new match is that if I decide not to close them I will send them a good icebreaker as well as my first questions at the very same time. The questions I choose are usually the same for every match and they are not hard questions, in my honest opinion; it is not like I am trying to "pick on" any of these ladies because I am not. What usually happens after that is within a short period of time these ladies view my profile, but they do not respond right away. After viewing my profile, they usually decide not to close me. Indeed, out of about 50+ new matches, I have only had about 5 or 6 closures from my matches in the last month or so, which is very good by my standards.

Now, what usually happens after that and what is happening right now is that my matches just sit there and sit there and sit there for awhile. Occasionally, a match will swing by and view my profile again. With some of the views being anonymous, it is hard to tell just how often my profile is being viewed, but ah well. I surmise that the likely reason my matches take so long to respond is because most of them are not paid subscribers. They are probably waiting for a handleful of good matches or maybe just one great match before they decide to pay; or maybe they are just waiting for the next free communication weekend (FCR). After a week or so, I will send my matches a nudge if they have not yet responded, but still keep them around long afterwards, just in case.

By the way, I could be totally wrong here, but I am predicting that the next free communication weekend will be the weekend of the 4th of July (Independence Day in the U.S.) and the next one after that will be on Labor Day weekend. This is just an intellectual guess; I really don't know this for sure! It seems that FCWs usually occur most often on holiday weekends. :-) And yes, I have actually gotten completely through the Guided Communication process with my matches before in a matter of a couple of days. I know this happened at least twice for me, and one time it was during a FCW. So, in effect, it is possible for this happen. Don't lose faith, ladies and gentleman!

Well, if you have any questions or comments for me or would just like to know more, please reply to this thread.

Thank you for your time and attention!

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chibrook is offline chibrook Post #2  June 2,2009, 7:53am
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Congratulations! Your hard work on your profile overhaul has evidently paid off. I'd wager that your profile now stands out from all the other "generic" ones. Way to go!
 
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Well, I got some new matches that arrived early early this morning and I responded to one of them by sending my usual icebreaker and my very first questions. A few hours later she replied back with her answers and her questions for me. Silly girl, I didn't pick on her that much. I asked her some easy questions, but she asked me the hard questions. Ah well. I guess that is women for me: Can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em! Of course, later today in the evening I answered her questions as best I could. Still awaiting a reply or a closure. Praying hard for those Must Haves/Can't Stands! WooHoo!

If my matches keep talking to me at this rate, I'll be married before I even realize it! Haha.

Caio for now.

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Mr. Nice Guy is offline Mr. Nice Guy Post #4  June 4,2009, 4:41am
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So, umm, are there any Godly Christian men out there seeking a Godly Christian woman? Not doing so good right now when it comes to Using eHarmony? Maybe I can help you out! Cheers!
 
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Mr. Nice Guy wrote :
So, umm, are there any Godly Christian men out there seeking a Godly Christian woman? Not doing so good right now when it comes to Using eHarmony? Maybe I can help you out! Cheers!
Hi Mr. Nice Guy,

So glad that you reworked your About Me page and that it has greatly improved your experience on our Singles site! A member's About Me page and photos directly impact their experience, and that is why we encourage members who would like a better rate of communication to review these sections of their profile to see if they can enhance either or both.

I am also glad to hear that you are communicating with most if not all of your matches! It's great that you are using the Nudge feature and then giving your matches ample time to respond before deciding to close communication. We recommend giving a match another week, but it never hurts to them even more time. Keep in mind that "closed" matches have the opportunity to send you a message requesting that you re-open communication.

How nice of you to extend a helping hand to other eHarmony members! That is the beauty of eHarmony Advice -- members can share what has worked for them and support one another in their search for that special someone.

Also, Mr. Nice Guy, in case this is news to you, there is a Christian group here on eHarmony Advice: http://advice.eharmony.com/?page=groups%2Fsearch&keyword=christian. If you haven't already done so, I encourage you to check it out. Some group members are also eHarmony Singles members; so you may want to join some of their discussions or start your own thread.

I wish you all the best,

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