Nanette is offline Nanette Post #11  June 1,2009, 3:26pm
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What takes the cake on that one is that she wanted to bother to try again. I would have just told you no thanks not interested and left it at that instead of doing it through eharmony.

But I have to say that there are just as many flaky guys, so its not really specific to one gender or age group.
 
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jlb896 is offline jlb896 Post #12  June 1,2009, 5:12pm
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I've actually read other posts by you on this topic and I'm sorry it happened again. Just take comfort that you found out how emotionally unstable, crude and immature these women are early on. There are a lot of men like that on eH, too. I have to just keep my chin-up and anyone who is emotionally unstable, rude or just plain poofs (injecting my own personal peeve here ) are just not worth the time or mental energy. You should do the same, too.
 
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ElleT721 is offline ElleT721 Post #13  July 13,2009, 9:35pm
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If this is a recurring event, did it ever cross your mind that these women find you arrogant, condescending, disingenuous, controlling, or they're simply not attracted to "overweight" men. Or whatever. Did you take them for drinks and dinner, and even pay for it? How about offering to take them to a 12-step meeting of their choice? I hear that'll charm the pants off women these days. Or maybe it's just karma. Hate that for ya buddy.
 
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logicalmind is offline logicalmind Post #14  August 25,2009, 3:28pm
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Do not, i repeat, do not assume that the inappropriate actions of others is a direct reflection of anything you have done. The women who have chosen to act childish and immature willfully and knowingly do this all by themselves. Distance yourself from their actions and do not feed into their garbage.
 
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jmc1951 is offline jmc1951 Post #15  August 26,2009, 11:19am
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Hi: Your two experiences are hilarious except that they actually happened and to you. If you were making all this up we would say 'sad and sociopathic'. Since you are not we can say 'great joke substrate and sociopathetic'. The twist at the end, (they come crawling back contrite and you get to scorn them) is female on the front end and male on the back. We might do as well or better exchanging phermones or having online palm reading sessions. As a guy you might also be dazzelled with the indirect way women do things. Like closing you after a great date with no explaination. A guy would just never call back leaving the female with endless, circular ruminations. Rule #1 is that 90% of life is showing up (W Allen circa 1988) and Rule #2 is Its just like what it looks like.Rule #3 Is the most powerful reinforcer is a random infrequent reward space (aka SGHO something good happens once in a while). Applying all three you should gleefuly move on waiting or SGHO. Best
 
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She closed you out without letting you know first, then followed it up with a scathing text to rub salt in the wounds? I wouldn't feel badly about this one, bwr. It was going to go nowhere but down.
 
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I had hoped that when I reached open communication with a match, there would be enough of a connection for there to be courtsey in our emails. In reading this thread, it seems to be somwhat common for men and women to flake during open communication or even after a first date. I was enjoying emailing a match in open communication, but noticed that his replies got further and further apart. Instead of just closing me or telling me we had a chemistry problem.....the nonresponse option reared it's ugly head. What really upsets me, we are both Christians and being rude and misleading by dodging honesty is not a Christian attitude. Maybe this should be a separate thread, but I don't think being online gives you a pass to avoid your professed Christianity and just go the "I'll just not respond and eventually she'll get the point" route. Honesty is not optional! Gee I guess I vented a little here..sorry!
 
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I do have to say: if this has happened to you multiple times, perhaps you need to look inwardly and see if there is something you are doing.
 
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Craftygirl is offline Craftygirl Post #19  August 28,2009, 7:11pm
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To true Oregon Coast Guy! It really has only happened once, I seem to get along ok with other OC men. I know I can be a little intense and am probably pushing the honesty issue to much. Thanks, live and learn!
 
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