CastleLady is offline CastleLady Post #21  June 2,2009, 9:30pm
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florabell wrote :
I understand your frustrations completely, as I am experiencing the same here. I think it is interesting that many suggestions relate to your photograph. I think you look nice and approachable, something that I am looking for in a (male) match myself, and was, at first angered that some individuals suggested making yourself appear more “attractive”. But, as I read on, I did see the point of perhaps, not making yourself look like someone else, but possibly ‘pose’ in a more attractive way; maybe something interesting in the background –walking in the park, playing with your dog… After three months no one seems to be interested in me, as well. I think I’m pretty spectacular J, but guess no one else agrees. I did learn something, though, from one of the posts; he said that some women’s photos looked depressed. I don’t like any pictures of myself because I am overweight, so just posted the one that looked less –unattractive, and now see that I do look like I am depressed in the picture. I think I will take another picture ASAP! Good luck to you! ~florabella
Good luck to you too! I do agree that photos in which the person looks grim or depressed probably aren't going to be as appealing as those which the subject smiling and enjoying what they're doing. I also read a post where the men were complaining that woman rarely included full-length shots, so I think I'm going to get a friend to snap some of me outside my house. Couldn't hurt to have extras, and it might help...even if none of them are glamor shots with my face painted like a billboard. ;-)
 
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Writer1 is offline Writer1 Post #22  June 12,2009, 12:59am
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I suspect that eH, like many other sites, has many more non payers than payers. I gave up paying because the response rate was ridiculously low.

After a year away from the site it sounds like little has changed. I am underwhelmed by the moderator's perky canned responses that amount to encouraging people to keep paying.
 
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Honestly, the whole on-line dating world can be a real mystery,and because we're dealing with people and all of their variances, I don't think there's one single formula for success. I do know that when I posted better, clearer photos of me, I got more responses. I've seen some people post their profiles here and then get feedback, and I've heard that this has been helpful.
 
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