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Hi everyone,

I recently starting using the question, "What are 2-3 of your current goals that you are working towards?" and have gotten a lot of information about my matches from their answers. I am wondering what other 2nd questions you have used with success?

I am curious mostly about questions you have typed in, not the ones provided by eHarmony.

- April 26th, 2008, 08:11 pm
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Just tried two new ones just now:

We've all come to the proverbial "fork in the road." Looking back over your life, have you ever taken the wrong path? How do you know? Would you go back and change paths if you could, knowing it could change the course of your entire life?



Do you have ambitions and goals? Are they realistic? Do they change often? What are they?
- April 26th, 2008, 11:37 pm
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Thanks for the ideas, these are great!
- April 28th, 2008, 08:31 pm
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I edited a previous poster's line: "You can influence any one event in the entire history of the world (what has occurred, how something works, etc.); what would you choose to change and why?"

The answer requires some thought and may reveal political or religious leanings.
- April 29th, 2008, 06:35 am
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By far the best question I ask is:

What do you enjoy most about being in a relationship? What do you most enjoy about being single?

Second is:

What is it about my profile and responses that intrigue you?

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- May 1st, 2008, 09:09 pm
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These are all great ideas. Mind if I borrow them? (Not that they're likely ever to get answered, since my matches tend to crash and burn at Level 3, but a gal can hope, eh?)
- May 2nd, 2008, 10:23 am
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I am on the verge of sending my first ever set of 2nd questions and I am stumped. I liked two of those I've seen above:


"What are 2 or 3 of your current goals that you are working towards?" - I would also add, "What are some of your longer term goals?"


"What is it about my profile and responses that intrigued you?" - Would it be appropriate to ask if there are any things on my profile that concern them? Maybe that's a bit too much for these beginning stages, but at least they could be honest.


I guess the 2nd questions should really be tailored to your match's profile and previous responses. I think I'll look these over before I send anything.


Any other tips would be great!
- April 1st, 2009, 10:22 am
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For me, I am 40, and am I am looking for a Christian man at this point in my life...as well as a man who knows himself well enough to articulate what his wants/need are...


I ask "Describe your spirituality"....and this will tell me if he truly loves and has a relationship with God...or looking for me to drag him to church...HAHAHA....or is like, ???????


And then I love this one..."Looking back on your life, what is one thing that you wish you could handle differently".....This to me really tells me if someone is humble enough to recognize that we are not perfect...we all make mistakes...and I am someone who asks for forgiveness when I am wrong..but also quick to forgive others....Or are they just someone who "blames" other people...like.."hmmm...nope...my ex wife was a jerk...all her fault"...HAHAHAH


And then straight up...LOL...I like the "What are you looking for in a relationship...what does this mean to you"....And then I can tell if we are both on the same path of wanting to date, get to know one another, in a solid but joyful and fun relationship...


So I really use these or write in my own and really appreciate it when the man takes time and thought to write back as well as pay attention to what he is asking me...


Good luck
- April 1st, 2009, 10:50 am
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My favorite question to ask which gives me insight into the person and lets them have some fun is:


They're putting a soundtrack together based on your life. What 3 songs would be on the soundtract for where you are right now in life and why?





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- April 1st, 2009, 05:13 pm
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One of my questions used to be What was the strangest food you've ever eaten and where did you eat it?


I got a lot of odd responses, butit gave me some perspective on how adventurous they were and where they had traveled previously.
- April 1st, 2009, 05:57 pm
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