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kml508 is offline kml508 Post #1  May 22,2009, 4:14am
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It's not original to say "Wouldn't you like to know" or "I'll never tell" or "You'll have to ask them". And I'm tired of reading that sort of thing over and over. EH isn't really asking for you to give away your deepest secret. It's an opportunity to share something unique or quirky about yourself. The ones (the very few) who actually take the time to answer it, they are quite endearing. It makes it more fun to read their profile... and makes them more interesting.
 
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The day I realized that great, well written and creative profiles do not necessarily reflect great people in real life, my dating went from bland to fantastic. Just some food for thought.
 
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Both of you make a good point.
 
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kml508 wrote :
It's not original to say "Wouldn't you like to know" or "I'll never tell" or "You'll have to ask them". And I'm tired of reading that sort of thing over and over. EH isn't really asking for you to give away your deepest secret. It's an opportunity to share something unique or quirky about yourself. The ones (the very few) who actually take the time to answer it, they are quite endearing. It makes it more fun to read their profile... and makes them more interesting.
My word. I thought I was the only one who felt that way. It's like these people are afraid to open their mouth because a skeleton might fly out. Or, they are hiding something. All in all, it is annoying.
 
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I agree it can be annoying to read these kinds of unoriginal responses, but I try to look at the profile as a whole and decide from there. Maybe the person isn't as comfortable writing about him/herself and can't quite think of how to put something, so they use a response like this, instead.
 
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Hi Everyone,

As I shared in another post that discussed this profile question, I think this question is a particularly interesting one because the way someone approaches it really gives you an insight into their personality.

Some matches may take it literally and respond with a "well, that wouldn't be a secret my friends only know" type of answer? Or, they may use the question to show a willingness to share but not share anything too personal?

Some matches may use the question to show their humor, and some to convey a bit of mystery "we'll save that bit of info for a later time." And then there are some who, in a show of good faith, may reveal something that most may feel is best left for a future communication.

Using it as an "opportunity to share something unique or quirky about yourself" as kml508 suggested is a great way to go. I personally suggest that members consider what they want their answer to convey about their personality, then create their answer accordingly.

Like brneyedangel, I also encourage members to consider a match's profile as a whole. Not every answer to every question may be compelling. Also, just a reminder that a match's profile is meant as an introduction and, as DancingFool shared, doesn't fully represent who they are. So you are encouraged to be open-minded and communicate with most if not all of your matches.

If you would like to read the comments on the thread I mentioned above, click here: How much is too much? - Dating & Relationship Discussion Boards – eHarmony Advice

Looking forward to other members' comments/suggestions.

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