Wafflehouse is offline Wafflehouse Post #1  May 16,2009, 7:29pm
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I've had some success on this site, but it still feels very odd sending off a "Hi, I'm _____" type message, having been already introduced at least partially to someone.

How long are most of your first messages, and how 'revealing' of you / your personality do you get? Are they a novel, or just a few quick lines? Obviously I'd like to know success stories, because what doesn't work generally doesn't work, and I'd rather have positive experiences from the few people I want to talk to (I don't try for all my matches, but those I do, I really want to get to know more)
 
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You can tell some things about yourself, but go back to her profile and answers to your questions in gc, and that will give you ideas to ask her about some subjects. It also turned out that with my most successful match - and the only one I care about - I suggested going eventually to the telephone, although we ended up using skype with webcam. [We are somewhat of a distance from each other, but will be meeting each other soon.]
 
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I haven't done this much(3x) but I agree with pussinboots.I actually made notes because I type s l o w l y !! I keep it upbeat and not too long,maybe two paragrphs. And ask a couple of not too serious questions. Think about the first time you call someone.......you wouldn't give them your life history (I hope ! ).
If you are serious about a long term relationship,then it's worth it to take time to develope one.
Good Luck !
 
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The nice thing about eHarmony is you can begin with commenting on the stuff from guided communication. If you have trouble writing messages I would suggest to stick with guided communication. Believe me, it is very difficult to master the first messages because obviously you want to learn as much as you can about the person but you don't want to ramble. But in the end if your match isn't interested after your first message or willing to give you a chance than it probably isn't going to go anywhere.
 
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