mkucsera is offline mkucsera Post #11  May 24,2009, 8:20pm
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Stevex--what do you have set that is narrow? Is it distance? I'm curious because I'm tired of closing out 3/4 of the matches sent to me. I want to find some balance so that those matches are screened out. I'd rather have fewer quality matches.
 
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Stevex--what do you have set that is narrow? Is it distance? I'm curious because I'm tired of closing out 3/4 of the matches sent to me. I want to find some balance so that those matches are screened out. I'd rather have fewer quality matches.
My distance is actually not narrow, I have the four states surrounding Texas. While in reality it would be harder to date someone 6-11 hours away, it is very possible. What you can change though is religion (though the problem there in your case, as I was reading your other thread, is that there are so many people who classify as Christians but so many different levels so hard to match what you want). Other than that, not sure what your other reasons for closing matches. If it is for anything such as drinking, smoking, education, income or any such thing than perhaps change you settings there.

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My settings for education, drinking, smoking and income aren't the problem. I just don't what to make of the profiles that go on about God and say little else. I've had a lot of them in the last few days. I think I found my answer; I should close them since they obviously bother me. Those profiles make me wonder if the match will preach at me; I love a good philosophical debate but preaching is fine at church but I wouldn't want that over email, let alone on the phone or in person.
 
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That's good to know about the marital status thing. I heard horror stories from friends of mine who tried that speed dating and some of those free sites.

As for loosening up parameters...does a long distance EH match work? Anyone try it and have a success?
My OPEN match I eventually married lived 270 miles from me.
 
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OK OK so there are a million posts complaining about the lack of matches. I understand this would be frustrating. Loosen up your parameters people.

Then we have those who are inundated with matches and complaining about it! GEEZ ! Isnt that what you paid for?

NOW, what about those who are happy with the number off matches that are generated but are left wondering if these are real people because weeks go by without responses?

WHY would you be on here if you arent going to communicate?
During the last week of my "subscription" I received over 20 new matches; one of my OPEN matches had a similar experience. We were both "puzzled" by this~!
 
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My distance settings are pretty loose, internationally loose, as are my religious, and ethnic settings, but things like smoking and drinking, I can't stand, so I have those very tight.
 
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During the last week of my "subscription" I received over 20 new matches; one of my OPEN matches had a similar experience. We were both "puzzled" by this~!
Its to get you to renew your subscription
 
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eHarmony runs constant ads on television, etc. to review your matches for free (there is an ad staring me in the face on this site as I type this). Then there are the Free Communication Weekends. People create a profile but never become paying members and therefore they cannot communicate. And no this is not something that is unique to eHarmony, every other site I have been on has a plethora of non-paying, non-communicating members that you will be matches with.
 
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During the last week of my "subscription" I received over 20 new matches; one of my OPEN matches had a similar experience. We were both "puzzled" by this~!
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Its to get you to renew your subscription
Doesn't happen to me. Though if you happen to be coming up for renewal around the time of a FCW then you are likely to get a large number of matches.
 
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Blackadder wrote :
For the parameters, I would think that since I live in the state capital a 50 mile radius would suffice, but I only got one match in the last three weeks. My other parameters are pretty relaxed except for smoking, that's a big deal breaker. So, I'm assuming most women on here smoke. It's only been four months for me but I have yet to even begin to communicate with anyone.
I'm in the same boat as you, Blackadder. I live in big city, and my only strict parameter is smoking-- I'm getting matches, but they don't really communicate, so I'm assuming most are non-payers. Or maybe there are TONS of guys I'd probably love on eHarmony, but they smoke.

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