Ever wish your matches were uglier?


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thedarknite is offline thedarknite Post #31  June 22,2009, 2:27pm
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grumbunny wrote :
Ever wish your matches were uglier?
That has to be the most-unexpected question ever!! If you think your matches are all attractive, just roll with it! See if you have a lot in common and see if there is a viable chance that the two of you can coexist and be partners.
 
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When you first register, I remeber there is one or two lines in the initial questionnaire asking you (girl) if you see yourself attractive and make a relevance bar for matching at the nearby space.

But I maybe incorrect.

And, after you complete the questionnaire, you cannot access to those answers, even the additional question on which school/ university you graduate!
 
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SammyH is offline SammyH Post #34  September 11,2009, 10:41am
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you should always look at their pics.
 
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I agree with Scarlet13, I notice a tiny hint of insecurity there. I would give the same advice for matches you considered not to be your type. Notice I didn't say ugly because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But, look at their profile and read what they have to say first before just discounting them as being too pretty.

I also sense a bit of pre-judgment here. You are assuming something may be lacking in this "pretty" match or lets be honest, that possibly they will reject you for not being "pretty" enough. Give men a chance, I am dating a very handsome guy now who I really connect with. Now, had I just said he's too attractive and kept going I would have really missed out on a charming, smart, funny man.

We take this thing wayyyyy to seriously sometimes and I don't profess to be anymore insightful than anyone else out here as I, too face my insecurities about dating. But, I must admit going through these posts and replying is really helping me through my issues. So, thanks, but give those "pretty" men a chance, you may strike gold.
 
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And so is ugliness. Some are neither truly pretty nor ugly, but are in between, you know, sort of pretty ugly.
 
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I think this is just as shallow as someone who wants all of their matches to be supermodels. People who want less attractive partners are often attention seekers who want to be 'the pretty one'. It's like picking ugly friends so you stand out at the bar. Who cares? If you are compatible and connected and ATTRACTED to your partner, who cares who looks better???
 
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I know what you mean, OP. I'm not ugly by any means, but I know when I'm out of my leauge. Call it insecurity or whatever, but I don't want to be closed out, then mocked on the message boards because this particular match is used to dating the model type and I tried to go out with him. I get rejected enough by people I consider unattractive.
 
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to answer the original question, um, no. I like my men hunky. of course I've dated many guys who weren't attractive to me on first glance, but who became incredibly sexy/handsome after getting to know them.

but I do avoid responding to the 10's - only got one or two of those, admittedly - but if they're too beautiful, I am not interested. not a pretty boy kind of girl. I like handsome, but hunky handsome with a masculine vibe.
 
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