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grumbunny is offline grumbunny Post #21  May 16,2009, 10:38pm
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Ok. First off, I am the OP. I never mentioned cheating being related to looks. Someone else did and I don't see that there's any real difference in how someone looks as to whether they will cheat. So don't be pushing that on to me.

Second, I don't think I am insecure. I think I am a realist. What's so bad about accepting yourself for who you are? Last I heard that was a good thing.
 
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Blackadder wrote :
Yes, I wish my matches are hideous. Who want a good looking partner? That would be terrible. What would your friends say if they saw you dating or even *gasp* marrying a beautiful person? If they're the right person for you but the only down side is they are good looking, geez, dump them and move on.

But seriously, if you're worried about your mate being better looking, you may wish to see about that little insecurity you may have. Be it jealously or whatever, you're going to have to get over it. You can't spend your life worrying about if your partner is getting looks from other women or if he's cheating. If you're stuck on his good looks rather than the person underneath, move on and settle for someone less attractive just to quell your own insecurity.

It's like guys who see a gorgeous woman and automatically mark her as unobtainable or out of their league, when in all reality she may be looking for a certain type of guy and be totally devoted to him. But that guy will never know unless he quits putting up the wall before he's even looked at her a second time.

A friend of mine has that single perspective tunnel vision. He thinks everyone thinks the way he does and sees people the ways he sees them. If a woman is beautiful to him, she's beautiful to everyone. Not everyone has the same tastes. I like different types than he does and so does everyone else in the world. If you have a "pretty" man, I'm sure not every woman out there is going to find him attractive. The point is if you are attracted to the man, he might turn out to be totally devoted to you in return and never think about another woman. You have to find out first.
No, you're not correct is saying that someone being considered gorgeous is a matter of taste. Let's face it: 99.99999999999999999999999999999% of the people on the planet think that Jessica Alaba is gorgeous and the same percentage think that Roseanne Barr is unattractive. If there's a woman your buddy thinks is gorgeous then I guarantee that you and a vast majority of men on the planet do as well.

Basically, hitting on someone is similar to picking a fight in that you have to pick your battles. If you decided to go out and pick a fight w/ someone tonight would you pick someone who you thought you could take or someone twice your size that would most likely beat the hell out of you?
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cfibl wrote :
seeing a knockout on here throws up a red flag in that I suspect they have some real issues if they're that attractive and having trouble finding someone.
The issues they're having is that they attract a lot of the undesirables in real life.

eH serves as a screening process by delivering only compatable matches for them (at least eH is suppose to do this, theoretically anyway).
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grumbunny wrote :
For some reason I am getting matched to guys I know would never look twice at me, I feel weird closing a match because they are too good looking but... I probably will end up doing that.
Oh no, don't do that. Let them be the ones to decide. Seriously. Why would you make that decision for them?
 
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Four_Children is offline Four_Children Post #25  May 18,2009, 2:18pm
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It sounds more like you have some personal(self-esteem) issues to work out first and for most. "How can you expect someone else to love you when you don't really love yourself". Self confidence is a big factor on either someone love themselves or not. It is considered an attractive trait that some potential mates look for in a potential partner.
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I was on vacation w/ a couple of lifelong friends when I asked one of them to take our picture. She said, "I already know what you look like; I don't need to take your picture. Meanwhile, she's running around taking pictures of goats and chickens, which apparently were more attractive than me and our friends.
 
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I want all of my matches to be very beautiful, because then I don't have to worry about judging them on their looks, I can focus on the important stuff that the girl brings to the table.
 
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SMRTRTHNU is offline SMRTRTHNU Post #28  June 21,2009, 4:28pm
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Geeze you guys....

I'd be happy if I got some matches who could write in complete sentences.....looks are the last thing on my mind.

I have a pretty good degree, have education set at important, and this is what I get.

Makes me wonder what I did on the questionnaire, not whether a match considers me attractive or unattractive, or if were in the same "league".....

If these are your only concerns, consider yourselves lucky!!
 
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I think you just want a guy that you can stomp all over.
 
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thedarknite wrote :
I think you just want a guy that you can stomp all over.

Who? Meeeeeeeee????
 
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