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I have been on EH now for about 10 days (loving it BTW - what a great forum and awesome people so far). I am totally overwhelmed though! I am communicating with 16 people right now and am stuggling to keep up with requests. Does this die down? What do you find normal? How do you keep people straight?! It's not like I'm in LA or something - I'm in Ohio for goodness sakes. Just curious. Thanks for any input!
- May 13th, 2009, 11:39 am
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Welcome to eHA!

You are doing very well! (I don't think I've had that many requests to communicate in well over a year of being on eH...lol).

What you might want to do is temporarily turn off matching until you've had a chance to get through your current "crop" of matches. Your account will still be active --- you just won't get any new matches until you turn matching back "on" again. This will give you a chance to concentrate on the ones you have already until you can manage to make room for more.

The other thing to keep in mind is that it's unlikely that all of the 16 matches with whom you're now communicating will get as far as open communication, and then to an actual date. So, there is some winnowing of the pool that will naturally take place as you advance through the communication process.

Good luck, and have fun getting to know your matches!
- May 13th, 2009, 12:08 pm
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I just don't want to miss out on any opporunities by shutting is off. That may be a good solution though and I guess I shouldn't be greedy. You're right I won't meet all 16 that I'm talking to now but that's the thing. I am in open communication with 16! That's not including the inbetween steps or new communication requests and the ones I've closed. I think it may come down to me wondering how many other people those men are communicating with. ACK - dating! Damned if you do and damned if you don't...
- May 13th, 2009, 01:15 pm
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there are a million people on this site complaining about not getting or being in communication with matches, so count your blessings!
- May 13th, 2009, 01:28 pm
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scarlet13 wrote :
there are a million people on this site complaining about not getting or being in communication with matches, so count your blessings!
Thank you! Maybe I'm just not picky enough LOL - everyone has been really cool! With the exception of the guy in a full, flex body pose in a tiny speedo. Really!?!
- May 13th, 2009, 01:36 pm
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greatstuff2009 wrote :
Thank you! Maybe I'm just not picky enough LOL - everyone has been really cool! With the exception of the guy in a full, flex body pose in a tiny speedo. Really!?!
oh, there are worse than that. much worse.

if it were me, i'd try to meet each person in RL as soon as possible to start thinning the herd, lol.

lucky you though.

i got very few matches, but i'm dating the second guy i was in communication with, so i'm not complaining either.
- May 13th, 2009, 01:43 pm
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Actually, i think its a good idea if you do turn off the matching. I have no proof of this, but if you are matched and get closed because you can't respond, that match is gone and will never match with you again. If you turn off matching, you actually won't be missing anything because that match will still be in the "pool" of available matches unless they also turn off matching.

Just something to think about.
- May 13th, 2009, 03:53 pm
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I have about four I am in OC with; some email more than others. I also others (I have no idea how many) I am in contact with and 'moving through the stages' so to speak.

I figure it's worth a shot; not everyone is going to work out or either one of us may decide not to meet one another. But I might meet someone nice and that would be cool.
- May 13th, 2009, 06:40 pm
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You're probably right... when one than one person suggests this I need to listen I still don't want to miss out so excited! I guess I'm just an EH newbie.
- May 13th, 2009, 06:45 pm
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Strength in numbers right? I hope I get to meet a few soon - there are some good people seems like.
- May 13th, 2009, 06:47 pm
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