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neardc is offline neardc Post #11  May 13,2009, 7:23pm
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People sometimes get a little jaded here after awhile -- that makes it especially nice to hear your enthusiasm! Keep us posted on how things go for you.
 
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KS_Disrupted is offline KS_Disrupted Post #12  July 8,2009, 9:22pm
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You could also lessen the distance of matches instead and find one closer, or wait for one closer.
 
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I am also a newbie! Your communication is a bit more than me but I love it just like you...I dunno, but I think its a good thing to have all those requests...maybe like you said overwhelming, but its better than nothing right? I find it interesting to see what guys are about, and what they have to offer...
 
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SouthernChristian is offline SouthernChristian Post #14  July 10,2009, 7:32am
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I have never been in OC with more than 2 at a time. Not by choice, it just seems that the matches I get don't want to communicate. I am very picky so maybe that's it.

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I have 36 matches in my Communicating folder. Eight are in Open Communication but four seem to have poofed and none are doing any regular communicating (like daily). Two are in Guided Communication with one I would suspect of being a Free Weekender and the other responded to my First Questions with an IceBreaker so that indicates to me that she is not a paying member.

So greatstuff2009 keep doing what you are doing most will fall by the wayside before long.
 
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legend29 is offline legend29 Post #16  July 10,2009, 8:08am
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greatstuff2009 wrote :
I have been on EH now for about 10 days (loving it BTW - what a great forum and awesome people so far). I am totally overwhelmed though! I am communicating with 16 people right now and am stuggling to keep up with requests. Does this die down? What do you find normal? How do you keep people straight?! It's not like I'm in LA or something - I'm in Ohio for goodness sakes. Just curious. Thanks for any input!
I live in the Northeast and get loads of matches from this area.

When I first started on EH it became overwhelming trying to stay in communication with all of the OC's and I had a brain freeze! So, I understand your conundrum and suggest that you use neardc's advice... and try to pace yourself. Newbies always get lots of matches, but it will slow down and then trickle to a few a week.

Until it slows down and gets 'normal', enjoy and try not to do like I did and communicate on the weekends only, because I was too busy during the week and get home so late. Try to keep up with the OC's so that they don't back up on you and then you're stuck to your computer on the weekends trying to respond to all of the OC's. That can be very frustrating..indeed!

Oh yeah....and keep up with the closed messages..those you close and those that close you. They can be a headache if they build up as well.

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I had the same problem when I was new on this site...I have been here for 3 months now and the volume of matches/people who wanted to communicate with me never really slowed down. I had the same feeling as you did that I wanted to keep getting matches because I didn't want to turn it off to continue talking with some people when the one I would really want to be with was still not matched with me. My advice is to find out if the matches have any of your deal breakers, and if not-meet. My experience with meeting people is that the ones that I thought ahead of time I would really like I ended up not liking that much and vice versa. In person chemistry is different than email chemistry. It does get a little overwhelming at times, and different things work for different people. That is just what seems to work for me. Good luck!
 
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[quote=greatstuff2009;604384]I just don't want to miss out on any opporunities by shutting is off. That may be a good solution though and I guess I shouldn't be greedy.


I hope you came up with a solution. Honestly just because they want to communicate with you doesnt mean you are truely thinking that all of those guys are the one right..you should just check what your preferences are and make them a little more tighter!!! that way you will still get matches but it will be more down your alley..if you put your distance far out there and dont plan to travel or hate long distance then thats not good type think lol good luck.

I too found it overwhelming at first then i narrowed the settings and ive only been on here for a week lol
 
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lodiprincess wrote :
I had the same problem when I was new on this site...I have been here for 3 months now and the volume of matches/people who wanted to communicate with me never really slowed down. I had the same feeling as you did that I wanted to keep getting matches because I didn't want to turn it off to continue talking with some people when the one I would really want to be with was still not matched with me. My advice is to find out if the matches have any of your deal breakers, and if not-meet. My experience with meeting people is that the ones that I thought ahead of time I would really like I ended up not liking that much and vice versa. In person chemistry is different than email chemistry. It does get a little overwhelming at times, and different things work for different people. That is just what seems to work for me. Good luck!
Great advice...the 'weeding-out' process can be time-consuming, but it will get the OC's to a manageable level...for sure!

After awhile, the matches and GC/OC's get to a slow crawl and it's mostly a 'closed' button you're hitting more!

There is usually a spurt around Thursdays (everyone rushing to get a date for the weekend, I guess!), and also around holidays. The summer is slow because most folks get away from their computer and spend more time outside. At least I know I do...haven't checked my matches in weeks...don't have the time and way too distracted by the birds chirping, flowers a-bloomin'...and all the sunshine (when it's not raining here in NY)!

I really must get it done...
 
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I've got more than 3 pages of matches, but I'm not communicating with very many of them. I'm pretty choosy when it comes to matches. I personally hate to close a match that might have possibilities though. When I know for sure that there are things I dislike about the match, I close immediately.
 
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