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Havoshin is offline Havoshin Post #1  May 10,2009, 5:24pm
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I mean, I get an email notification, then I respond. But all of my matches take days to respond.





Do you(the reader) also wait this long?





I mean, its not like this is really time consuming.
 
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Sometimes it is, with life and work and all--I often don't get a lot of free time during the week and need to eat and sleep! But if I don't reply promptly, I just apologize profusely and explain what's up.
 
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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #3  May 10,2009, 6:04pm
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Supposedly the theory is that you show that you're busy and you have a life when you don't respond right away. Plus, you show some unattainability there, which makes you supposedly higher value.


But these are the games we play. The more realistic version is that they might be busy, or working, or out with friends, or doesn't check their email nearly as often as you do. Don't sweat it. Just consider it to be standard fare until you and her are exclusive.
 
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Havoshin, wrote :

I mean, I get an email notification, then I respond. But all of my matches take days to respond.





Do you(the reader) also wait this long?





I mean, its not like this is really time consuming.
Like everyone else said, sometimes life can get in the way, especially on a weekend.





The other reality is they may not be that into you and just walk away rather than close you.
 
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Generally, for the first round of questions, it takes a minute or two, I never wait.I get right to it, I'm paying for this anyway. The 'short answer questions' ? Different story, I can take a week to come up with good questions and/or give good answers.





Life and work if busy, but the first round is about as easy as breathing, IF they're interested.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #6  May 11,2009, 12:27pm
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It is sometimes frustrating to only hear from someone once a week, or just a few times in a week even. I suppose it can make someone very paranoid. Best to just go with the flow, if things don't work out than they won't work out. Keep communicating with other matches or go out with your friends and get your mind off dating entirely. Just live your life, and be happy. Don't consume yourself with the idea of having a partner. Believe me, I occasionally will waste so much time seeking out women and then I question why I did. I suppose in reality we all want to rush things and meet that amazing person, but perhaps we should all go and smell the roses sometimes.
 
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Havoshin, wrote :

I mean, I get an email notification, then I respond. But all of my matches take days to respond.





Do you(the reader) also wait this long?





I mean, its not like this is really time consuming.
Some times I like to think about what to say before writing back. I feel bad but I just waited like 3 days before sending a message to a very attractive woman. I tried a couple times to write that first message, but just had writers block at the keyboard. Also sometimes I don't want to seem to eager so I'll let it wait a day. Like if I get a message and I've already been online that day I won't go back.
 
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They may be wasting their time posting on EHA
 
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verylibra is offline verylibra Post #9  May 11,2009, 4:54pm
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How funny all this is! I write back as soon as I can unless I've decided I want to close the match. Then sometimes it takes me a day or two to get up the nerve to do it kindly. I write back on Saturday night if I'm at home. If that is somehow sending the wrong message, who cares. A person who would discount me because of that, really isn't well suited for me to begin with. Some of these games seem just like high school. I'm way beyond that!
 
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verylibra,613563 wrote :

How funny all this is! I write back as soon as I can unless I've decided I want to close the match. Then sometimes it takes me a day or two to get up the nerve to do it kindly. I write back on Saturday night if I'm at home. If that is somehow sending the wrong message, who cares. A person who would discount me because of that, really isn't well suited for me to begin with. Some of these games seem just like high school. I'm way beyond that!
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So tired of the head games. I wouldn't think to much about people who don't respond right away. Just focus on those matches that do respond and seem interested.
 
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