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Like2Bmarried wrote :

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I will tell you that my ex-husband was on this dating site for about as long as you have been. He is 46, but looks older, is actually anugly man with the body of a flabby teenager, terribly boring, with no sense of humor,but very successful. I don't know how it happened, but hemet the love of his life on here and is very happy and content. They met in October andare getting married within the month. So, chin up, there truly IS someone for everyone and heis living proof!





OMG! That is hysterical! I am cracking up, tears running down my face!! I've heard all sorts of descriptions for ex's, but this one is by far the best! What on earth possessed you to marry him?


Hey, he's a pile of poo, but very successful. LOL!
Well, he always had a miserable demeanor, but he was a little more attractive in his younger years (but not much more). The main attraction for me was the fact that he played hard to get - which made me want to "win" him. I never actually did though, and I got tired of constantly trying to make him happy without success. After awhile I realized that if he lost all of his money there wouldn't be a thing for me to stay around for - it wasn't like he treated me well and it's not always about money.


I just wanted the OP to know that he was looking for quite awhile before he hit the "jackpot" and that the situation is not hopeless.


I agree with a few of the replies that you should have a trusted objective party look at your profile for pointers.


GOOD LUCK!
- May 12th, 2009, 11:21 am
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Is it me or is this guy? I joined EH in March, Almost immediately I was matched w this guy, we did GC, seemed to be getting along, got to OC were writing emails then he poofed. I was hurt as this was the first time for me online so I did not really know how things worked. Anyway, I took it as a learning experience. Last Friday, guess who appears on my matches? Yep, he's back and we are matched again. So I think no sense in going thru GC we have done that, so I request fast track..and he AGREES. So I am thinking great! But then nothing happens. I sent him a short email w no response. Today he CLOSES me! Reason: pursuing another relationship. Of course, my lower self esteem is saying I wasn't pretty enough (I did not have my picture last time). My higher self esteem says he is a loser and forget about him.





So, guys and gals, please give me your thoughts. Also, will he continue to pop up as a match, or is this the end of this idiot?





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- May 12th, 2009, 05:03 pm
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Is it me or is this guy? ...


So, guys and gals, please give me your thoughts. Also, will he continue to pop up as a match, or is this the end of this idiot?





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Congratulations! You've been matched with "The Biggest Loser!"

Seriously, this guy is a jerk!

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Standard advise...
Question to consider: Did you really take your personality profile honestly? (It's easy to answer the questions the way you think you are supposed to answer, and this will really skew the guys that you are matched with.)
- May 13th, 2009, 09:31 am
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Hello. I just saw your post and knew I might be able to cheer you up.
Yes, I would have a trusted female friend(s) go over your eH. profile. Also, do you like and believe in yourself even as you describe yourself as an average looking guy? If you can do this, even if it takes some real therapy with a PhD., you will be better off in so many ways. I know from my own experience. Plus, what makes you think you are average looking??? Just because there are so called "good-looking men" out there, does that necessarily mean you are not one of them? Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder. Furthermore, what is wrong with someone half-way around the world or older than you? Women usually live longer than men. I'm not sure if you are religious but, maybe God has the perfect match for you and you ignore her because of some of the distance &/or age criteria you have? I'm 32 and seriously considering men in your age group. TRUST that you will find the woman meant for you. I will keep you in my prayers.
- May 14th, 2009, 02:22 pm
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Oh,no!!!!!! please don't let this man (????) get to you.Your worth more and he's just a guy. ceec
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- May 14th, 2009, 11:23 pm
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Definitely have a woman or two look over your profile! We ladies read that first and then look at pictures.

Also, just out of curiosity, when the last time you tried asking a woman out outside of eharmony? Might be good practice if it's been a while.
- May 15th, 2009, 12:18 am
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theidentityofdeck wrote :
I agree with Not_Getting_Anything on the point that women my age, only look for the "young stud" who knocks them off their feet, instead of the "average joe" or "dorky (like me ) who has the emotional and physical capabilities to carry out an intense relationship. Only my thoughts, though.

That's not true...saying that is like a girl saying "All guys are only looking for supermodels who are beautiful but haven't a thought in their head".

I much prefer the 'average joe' or 'dorky' over some 'young stud'...MUCH prefer it!
- May 16th, 2009, 01:25 am
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Take heart fellow E Harmony casualty. YOU are not doing anything wrong. The system is badly flawed and they dont want to admit it. I too (and several other women) have been in the same boat as you. I do not think it is a question of people taking forever to respond it is a question of EHarmony NEVER cleaning out their profiles. Once it is here it is here. It is soooo common people have created a term for if...Poofing. EHarmony doesnt run "free weekends" because they are being nice. They run them to boost their "membership" falsely and create "new" profiles so peole think there are tons of matches available.

Best advice....take this site with a grain of salt and if you do find a match great but dont expect to find one. SADLY!

Take Care and keep hunting
- May 16th, 2009, 04:48 am
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Take heart fellow E Harmony casualty. YOU are not doing anything wrong. The system is badly flawed and they dont want to admit it. I too (and several other women) have been in the same boat as you. I do not think it is a question of people taking forever to respond it is a question of EHarmony NEVER cleaning out their profiles. Once it is here it is here. It is soooo common people have created a term for if...Poofing. EHarmony doesnt run "free weekends" because they are being nice. They run them to boost their "membership" falsely and create "new" profiles so peole think there are tons of matches available.

Best advice....take this site with a grain of salt and if you do find a match great but dont expect to find one. SADLY!

Take Care and keep hunting
Dear dragonfly13,
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I regret that your eHarmony experience to date has led you to believe that our system is flawed. It can be discouraging when you aren't finding that special someone as soon as you'd hoped or aren't receiving responses as often or as soon as you'd like.
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While we'd love to guarantee that every member will meet that special person right away, we can't, and we don't. However, eHarmony is a great option for anyone looking for a successful, long-term relationship. This option takes the form of a partnership in which we will only send you matches who are highly-compatible with you along those traits which have been proven to be the foundation of happy, healthy relationships; and your part of the partnership is to create an engaging, thoughtful, detailed About Me page and post a variety of photos that give your matches an insight into your personality, interests, and lifestyle.
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If you would like to experience a better rate of communication, I would encourage you to take another look at your profile to make sure it is representing you as well as possible. If you'd like profile assistance, a Customer Care agent will be glad to review it upon request and provide suggestions: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/. Also, along with other threads on "Using eHarmomy" created to help members with their About Me page and photos, there is a new Profile Workshop thread.
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However, once you have your profile working as well as it can for you and are communicating with most, if not all of your matches, being successful on our site does require time. On average, our successful members devoted 3 to 6 months to their search before being matched with their special someone. And if you take a look at our Success Stories page, some were on our site even longer. There is a reason we offer 12-month subscriptions. I encourage you and anyone disappointed with their search to get some inspiration and tips from our Successful Couples: http://www.eharmony.com/success.
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Lastly, our Free Communication Weekends (FCW) are meant to inspire individuals wanting a successful, long-term relationship to join our service. We do this because we want you to have a successful eHarmony experience! The more eHarmony members there are, the greater the chance that you will be successfully matched -- just like the many Successful Couples who found each other as a result of FCW's.
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We would love the opportunity to help you have a better experience; so please contact our Customer Care team for assistance and support.
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All the best,
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- May 26th, 2009, 05:10 pm
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