k374 is offline k374 Post #1  May 3,2009, 9:17pm
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I just saw this snippet on EH:


We do use physical appearance as a factor in our matching process and we encourage all members to post a photo.


We know that physical attraction is important, but studies have shown it to be less important, in the long run, than characteristics like intelligence, conflict resolution and energy level among others.


Therefore we encourage you to get to know each match with an open mind and take care not to make a snap judgment based on a photo.


Well, my question, how exactly do theymatch byphysical appearance? Is a person given a physical appearance score based on their pic? Does this mean that the matches I am getting are more or less on the same physical attractiveness level as myself?
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #2  May 3,2009, 9:33pm
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eH doesn't rate the pics...lol. But, by encouraging posting photos, they provide a way for you to assess the attractiveness of your matches. I find that my matches represent a pretty wide range of attractiveness -- most are neither ugly nor dropdead gorgeous, though, but somewhere in between.


(Moving this to the Using eHarmony forum...)
 
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I would say that eharmony can only rate attractiveness by what you submitted how you feel about your appearance in the survey. Some people would rate themselves very high and others very low. Still it would depend on the person viewing the profile if you found them attractive or not.


My own matches are a very wide range. Most would fall in average...neither especially attractive or ugly. There are a few on either ends of the rangebut I'm sure even with those that it is a matter of opinion in at least most cases.


Generally, I think that people end up with someone around the same level of attractiveness. Still it is one of many factors that make a good match so do consider that when you are looking at the appearance. Thinking someone is too pretty or ugly for you would very well work against you in finding a match perfect for you.
 
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I think they are just trying to get you to post photos.


Cant see how they would know how one person view of beauty is.





Hopefully they are not matching me with shallow thin, rich seeking barbie blonds, may be the reason I've never get a date on this site!
 
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I think, when you sign up, eHarmony asks you a question about how important physical attractiveness is to you. Can anyone who signed up recently confirm?


There are also some questions/MHCSs about this during the guided communication process.


They do not consider a person's actual appearance.
 
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That’s correct, Trailviews.


The Relationship Questionnaire contains questions which address perception of self in regard to aspects of physical appearance and traits, and how important aspects of physicality in a prospective partner are to you. Your answers are factored in as part of the comprehensive compatibility which includes the other key dimensions.


Although the outcome of your Questionnaire ensures that your matches are compatible with you at core levels, people still naturally respond to something they can relate to and they’ll be curious to see if there is potential to feel attracted to you in person. Just like the Questionnaire, appearance is only one part of why photos are so important. Posting them also gives your matches a little window into your personal style, your countenance, and what you look and feel like in your context. Appearance and other personality dimensions all factor into how much chemistry two people will feel for each other.


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k374, wrote :

I just saw this snippet on EH:


We do use physical appearance as a factor in our matching process and we encourage all members to post a photo.


We know that physical attraction is important, but studies have shown it to be less important, in the long run, than characteristics like intelligence, conflict resolution and energy level among others.


Therefore we encourage you to get to know each match with an open mind and take care not to make a snap judgment based on a photo.


Well, my question, how exactly do theymatch byphysical appearance? Is a person given a physical appearance score based on their pic? Does this mean that the matches I am getting are more or less on the same physical attractiveness level as myself?
I disagree, the picture is very important. The opinion of most women who are listed on eH is that if a Match does not bother to leave a picture, he has something to hide, or, he can't afford a digital camera. Both reasons are enough to judge and ignore him.


I for one, answer all Matches offered to me, except for those without pictures. Sometimes Itweakthem to spring for a camera if I sense a delay in his answer.


Would you ignore the requests to complete an interviewapplication? I take eH seriously, like a business that will decide the rest of my life.
 
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MOTHER,614999 wrote :

The opinion of most women who are listed on eH is that if a Match does not bother to leave a picture, he has something to hide, or, he can't afford a digital camera. Both reasons are enough to judge and ignore him.
What if I'm just too good looking?


My match may not feel worthy by comparison.Besides I want her to love me for my mind. There's more to me than just eye candy.
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #9  May 13,2009, 4:47am
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The questionnaire also asked (I think!) to rate your own level of attractiveness. So I'm guessing it matches people who chose similarly on that point?
 
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illustrator wrote :
What if I'm just too good looking?


My match may not feel worthy by comparison.Besides I want her to love me for my mind. There's more to me than just eye candy.
Really like your last two sentences - nice to see that from a bloke
 
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