How do you compare eH to the others?

I'm still in my first week on eH, and for me, the jury is still out. I either closed or had closed about 84 for about 5 I find interesting.



One thing I've noticed, its harder to get a first hand impression of personality from the eH profile. I am an "N" in the Myers-Briggs, that is, I am an abstract thinker and communicator. I can't imagine forming a deep connection with an "S" as all my closest friends have been "N's." While the other main sites may not have the 29 degrees, I could usually identify this abstract communication trait in a person's introduction. Not so on eH. I am also suspicious that this abstract versus concrete characteristic is not one of eH's 29 dimensions of compatibility.

Anybody have specific feelings about whether eH does a better job of matching people up than the others?

Keirsey (Please Understand Me) indicates that the N-S breakdown is about 20%-80%. I think most systems out there cater to the 80% and think they have it figured out. I am pretty sure the eH uses concrete characteristics to match people up. And while those characteristics are probably useful for basic level compatiblity, I am guessing they are much more important to S's than N's (I am an INTJ btw). Since strong N's place a higher value on the world of concepts and ideas, the concrete dimensions of compatibilty just aren't going to matter as much.

I do know some happy couples who are N-S mixes, but the N's in those relationships are not really extremely N and are more often women (who seem to be more adaptable in relationships than men). I have had relationships with S's before (my pre-MBT days). In retrospect I realize that this was why they didn't get me, and this made it difficult to connect on a soul level.

Birth order charateristics are interesting too (birthorderplus - Cliff Isaacson). The guy referenced has a take that there are 5 birth order types - only, first, second, third, fourth, and starting again with only. Of course he neglects the N-S variation as well.

I also found some really interesting commentary based on a list of seven in the Bible book of Romans, ch. 12. - prophet, servant, teacher, encourager, giver, leader, mercy. These are less useful for a specific matchup, but are much more useful in understanding people different than yourself.

I always thought it would be really interesting to have a reality dating show where you had a panel of different experts on these personality models give a preview before the date, a summary of the date like the old late night dating shows, and then a follow up on how the different personalities impacted the success/failure/interaction of the date.

I think my short run on eH will be chalked up to entertainment, but I am not really convinced that that are doing a great job of finding my soulmate out there.

I might take you up on the MBT thread - any suggestions on which subcatagory and a title?

Keirsey (Please Understand Me) indicates that the N-S breakdown is about 20%-80%. I think most systems out there cater to the 80% and think they have it figured out. I am pretty sure the eH uses concrete characteristics to match people up. And while those characteristics are probably useful for basic level compatiblity, I am guessing they are much more important to S's than N's (I am an INTJ btw). Since strong N's place a higher value on the world of concepts and ideas, the concrete dimensions of compatibilty just aren't going to matter as much.

I do know some happy couples who are N-S mixes, but the N's in those relationships are not really extremely N and are more often women (who seem to be more adaptable in relationships than men). I have had relationships with S's before (my pre-MBT days). In retrospect I realize that this was why they didn't get me, and this made it difficult to connect on a soul level.

Birth order charateristics are interesting too (birthorderplus - Cliff Isaacson). The guy referenced has a take that there are 5 birth order types - only, first, second, third, fourth, and starting again with only. Of course he neglects the N-S variation as well.

I also found some really interesting commentary based on a list of seven in the Bible book of Romans, ch. 12. - prophet, servant, teacher, encourager, giver, leader, mercy. These are less useful for a specific matchup, but are much more useful in understanding people different than yourself.

I always thought it would be really interesting to have a reality dating show where you had a panel of different experts on these personality models give a preview before the date, a summary of the date like the old late night dating shows, and then a follow up on how the different personalities impacted the success/failure/interaction of the date.

I think my short run on eH will be chalked up to entertainment, but I am not really convinced that that are doing a great job of finding my soulmate out there.

I might take you up on the MBT thread - any suggestions on which subcatagory and a title?