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I know, I know.. so many threads about photos, but I am wondering...


WHY on earth would anybody put a revealing picture of themselves in a profile?


Now, if you have a good body, we can see with your clothes on, that you have a good body, we do not need to count the squares. If we cringe with your clothes on, PLEASE don't post revealing pictures either, we don't want to know!!


I just wonder if the ones who do, do you do it for attention? do you get more attention? Do you get unwarranted attention? Are you just looking to hook up? Do you just like showing off?
 
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Are you referring to revealing as in a guys shirt open to the navel, top button of his jeans openand fuzzy chest hair sticking all out and gold chains, totally 1970's looking?? eeew yeah.... that's gross. Feel like I need to go wash after seeing something like that.
 
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I mean that, and also the good looking men in the pool all wet and the really big guys holding up their shirt with sweaty armpits. Why.. why!


But more seriously, the ladies who reveal a little cleavage and the guys who hint more than show off. Really,does it help? and do you go for that? do you get more interested in reading and looking at the other pictures? Is it ahook for the profile? or is it the whole fillet-o-fish?
 
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When I look at an online profile, I am looking for a classier photo. If she wants to put a bikini photo on there as an additional photo that's OK, but I would prefer that it not be Picture 1 of 2 or Picture 2 of 2 -- more photos is better. I haven't really seen too many outrageously revealing pics yet.
 
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I would view it as being far more weird for a man to have revealing photos.


Women often go to the beach & often go their with cameras. It would be natural for them to have photos of themselves & their friends in bikinis. While I spend the entire summer at the beach, Ihave never brought a camera with me nor have I seen any other men withcameras either. The only way that I could get that kind of photo is to pose for it. Just seems a bit unnatural. If I was going to set up photos for my profile they would not be without a shirt... even if I were at the beach.


A woman can also go into eating establishments in a bikini while men, well,... to quote Jeff Spicoli... No shirt, No shoes, noooo diiice.
 
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If I were to get a good looking guy in a pool as the revealing photo, it would be a welcome change. While it's not the kind of photo that I WANT to get, it's certainly far better than the ones thatI have gotten.


I'm not sure sometimes what people think.


I got a profile once, the guy had *great* pics, I'd say maybe 4 - 5 of them. We go on communicating, etc. One day I go to respond to something and 1/2 the pics are gone and replaced. 2 of the replacements are 'steamy hot tub shots'. Total turn off. If those had been there from the beginning, I wouldn't have bothered, to be honest.
 
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LavenderFields,585503 wrote :

I mean that, and also the good looking men in the pool all wet and the really big guys holding up their shirt with sweaty armpits. Why.. why!


But more seriously, the ladies who reveal a little cleavage and the guys who hint more than show off. Really,does it help? and do you go for that? do you get more interested in reading and looking at the other pictures? Is it ahook for the profile? or is it the whole fillet-o-fish?
If a girl wears a nice, not to revealing sun dresses, etc...then it's good...but I'd imagine if she posted some pictures only wearing a two-piece swimsuit....she's showing her assets and expect to find a similar guy...and I ain't it.


Somewhat related to this topic...I've closed somebody who included maybe about 5-8 glamour shots of herself, very glamorous for me...so I closed.


I want somebody natural..maybe one nice picture during a christmas party...one with a dog, one with a couple friends at dinner...(no cut pictures with a guy's hand on her shoulder type), etc.
 
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PY,585875 wrote :

LavenderFields,585503 wrote :


I mean that, and also the good looking men in the pool all wet and the really big guys holding up their shirt with sweaty armpits. Why.. why!


But more seriously, the ladies who reveal a little cleavage and the guys who hint more than show off. Really,does it help? and do you go for that? do you get more interested in reading and looking at the other pictures? Is it ahook for the profile? or is it the whole fillet-o-fish?


If a girl wears a nice, not to revealing sun dresses, etc...then it's good...but I'd imagine if she posted some pictures only wearing a two-piece swimsuit....she's showing her assets and expect to find a similar guy...and I ain't it.


Somewhat related to this topic...I've closed somebody who included maybe about 5-8 glamour shots of herself, very glamorous for me...so I closed.


I want somebody natural..maybe one nice picture during a christmas party...one with a dog, one with a couple friends at dinner...(no cut pictures with a guy's hand on her shoulder type), etc.

I have seen both types of bikini pics. Some may be showing off assets & somemay just be a natural pic of a woman at the beach. It is usually pretty easy to spot the difference.
 
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As a man...I'm all for them. I'm simple. However, it immediatly raises red flags....
 
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bigfincat,585892 wrote :

PY,585875 wrote :


LavenderFields,585503 wrote :


I mean that, and also the good looking men in the pool all wet and the really big guys holding up their shirt with sweaty armpits. Why.. why!


But more seriously, the ladies who reveal a little cleavage and the guys who hint more than show off. Really,does it help? and do you go for that? do you get more interested in reading and looking at the other pictures? Is it ahook for the profile? or is it the whole fillet-o-fish?


If a girl wears a nice, not to revealing sun dresses, etc...then it's good...but I'd imagine if she posted some pictures only wearing a two-piece swimsuit....she's showing her assets and expect to find a similar guy...and I ain't it.


Somewhat related to this topic...I've closed somebody who included maybe about 5-8 glamour shots of herself, very glamorous for me...so I closed.


I want somebody natural..maybe one nice picture during a christmas party...one with a dog, one with a couple friends at dinner...(no cut pictures with a guy's hand on her shoulder type), etc.





I have seen both types of bikini pics. Some may be showing off assets & somemay just be a natural pic of a woman at the beach. It is usually pretty easy to spot the difference.
ah yeah good point...some purposely post revealing pics just to raise people's flags.
 
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