Why constantly 'view' my profile but not communicate for days at a time?


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Mybella is offline Mybella Post #1  April 14,2009, 12:57am
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Theres a mani have been ''chatting'' with for almost 3 weeks now. First in GC for one weekthen in Open communication(5emails in OCso far) it seems he will go days without emailing me now but INSTEAD views my profile everyday!!!!! Why view me so much in between emails- what does that mean? Its so confusing.





I'd rather he'd make a choice. Close me out or continue to email regularly and meet face to face. Why space them out so much but view me instead? I see everyday that he views me but yet it'll be 3 - 4 days in between emails sometimes!!! I sent him an email Late Friday night and don't want to send another one..he usually responds within 3 days!!!! Easter was on Sunday so i didn't expect one from him bcuz of traveling to see relatives. The thing is he's viewed me all weekend long..Friday night, Saturdayand again this morning (Monday) before i left for work he was there..lol!!!!!





I have had a few guys ''view'' my profile regularly before they initiate communication which i understand or if they are waiting for a response from an icebreaker, nudge or questionsbut is it common if they are already in OC with you????





Can anyone shed some light on this?





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tbesq is offline tbesq Post #2  April 14,2009, 3:11am
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Mybella,


If your profile is interesting (in other words, it is filled with a lot of information), be may just be checking it for conversation topics for future OC with you. Other than that, I can't think of why he would do it. If it bothers you enough, you should ask him.
 
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tbesq is probably right. I will look at a profile looking for topics to discuss, especially when the other person isn't helping the conversation along. If he sends you an email that has questions and you answer them but aren't offering anything more for the conversation to continue it can be quite difficult to think of something to write. Try moving to the phone it may help things progress. or chances are good he will just ...poof.
 
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Mybella is offline Mybella Post #4  April 14,2009, 4:32am
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I always ask him questions, as he does me and i do write pretty lengthy emails back so the only thing he may be stumped on is what to do next?!?





Unless he is just not sure anymore..maybe he has changed his mind - you'd think he'd done that much earlier though, but i honestly don't know i am still so new to all this. I just think its odd to look everyday when in OC and you are writing back and forth every couple of days anyway!!!!!!
 
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Do you have some nice looking pictures of yourself posted? He might just really like the way you look!
 
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Mybella is offline Mybella Post #6  April 14,2009, 7:14am
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LOL!!! I've been told they are nice pictures--i have had a few guys comment on them saying that i am pretty, an attractive woman, etc. so maybe? I honestly don't know - i get looking when somone you find attractive is NOT communicating with you..or your waiting for a response from someone you find attractive and have contacted oncebut when you are in OC alreadyand you have the chance to actually meet the girlin person - why??? Grrrri just don't get it.





Is it a guy thing??? I know men are VISUAL CREATURES i've been told they fall in love with their eyes or some other body part ..LOL!!!!





I think he is just not sure or really scared or both!!!
 
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I've experienced the same thing! Sometimes I wonder if they're showingour profiles to friends, family, or coworkers...and maybe getting their opinion. I've done that before...but only once or twice. There is a guy on another venue that views me every day...but who I met and didn't hit it off with, and told him so. But he's still always there...looking. It's kinda freaky stalker-ish. But your situation may be all in innocence. Maybe he's really busy and wants to take the time to write well thought out emails.
 
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Don't worry about it! Guide it toward a meeting!


The truth of the matter is that all this is really unimportant! It doesn't count for anything!


What counts is MEETING! Where are you in terms of being ready to broach that subject?
 
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As soon as he responds to my email from Fridat night--if he does i am ging to ask him to meet or if not just close him i guess--even though some would say not to close him JUST MOVE ON and see what happens in the future!!!!! I think i will need to move on from this so i can focus on other matches either way!!!!!!!!!
 
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Mia09 is offline Mia09 Post #10  April 14,2009, 1:50pm
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Mybella,577539 wrote :

As soon as he responds to my email from Fridat night--if he does i am ging to ask him to meet or if not just close him i guess--even though some would say not to close him JUST MOVE ON and see what happens in the future!!!!! I think i will need to move on from this so i can focus on other matches either way!!!!!!!!!
Don't make the same mistake I did. Don't drag out the OC. If he responds, suggest meeting up. If you don't get any response within an acceptable time frame, move on. Close the match. Time (and money) is ticking on your membership. There are other matches waiting to hear from you.
 
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