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springtime1960 wrote :
I had my settings at anywhere in the US and have flown to the opposite coast 3 times. One of those ended up as becoming a very good friend. I looked at the travel as a vacation/adventure.
I completely agree to the idea that the travel is an adventure and not only get to meet new people but see new things. Of course, the reason I limit myself to states surrounding Texas is that I would have trouble at this point in my life to finding the time or money to travel all the time, and I would want to be able to see the person more than once every month or so.

But I digress, you have a great outlook, and I am glad that you have met someone and are in a good relationship right now. Best wishes to you and good luck for your future.
- May 24th, 2009, 03:09 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Is it a friendly country?
That depends on how you define "friendly".

It is not likely I would be able to get a green card and relocate to that country and it is not likely that a "match" would be able to relocate to my country.

Is that "friendly"?
- May 24th, 2009, 07:44 pm
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I would still lean toward setting the distance to what you are willing to travel.

Even if one hemisphere of the resulting radius is missing, you’ll still cover more area that way. You, or he, can always close matches on a case-by-case basis. Stevex above said he’ll drive 10 hours, I stop at 1.

Some people don’t mind distance that others would never consider; by opening your radius, you’ll get a larger percentage of closed matches, but you’ll still have a larger number remaining.
- May 25th, 2009, 08:44 am
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Good point D_Lion. We should consider what we are willing to travel. If there are those that we are being matched up with who are "closing" matches due to distance...move on.

I met someone who I dated for about a year who lived a few states away...the physical distance was a bit hard, but we managed. There were a couple of trips (from both of us). Now, the relationship did not work out, but it wasn't because of distance.

What are we willing to do to find The special one?

For me, if he can put up with me...hehe...almost anything...
- May 25th, 2009, 08:26 pm
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I just moved mine in to 60 miles from 120 last week, and just got a whole flurry of "flexible matches" that are 300+ miles away, including one in Canada.

All closed on grounds of distance.

Apparently match settings are meaningless to EH
- May 26th, 2009, 01:16 am
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Can anyone say when "flex matches" first were sent out~? Both for distance and other things~?
Am just curious.
- June 3rd, 2009, 11:37 am
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GILKEY wrote :
Can anyone say when "flex matches" first were sent out~? Both for distance and other things~?
Am just curious.
Year and a half? Two years ago?
- June 3rd, 2009, 12:11 pm
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Hi Gilkey,

The Match Flexibility feature was implemented in November of 2006 to provide more chances to meet compatible matches. We always encourage members to open up settings where you can. The right person could fall under a category or setting that you wouldn’t have expected – couples who met through eHarmony mention it all the time.

Gary21228 – I’m sorry that you’re getting matches outside of your preferred settings. We do care that you are getting matches within comfortable settings for you, as much as possible and also getting as many appropriate matches for you as possible.

You can change the Match Flexibility setting for distance on your Match Settings page. Make sure that the level of importance on your distance setting is 6 or 7 “Very Important” and save the new setting. If you need assistance with this, our Customer Care team is available for assistance through this link: http://help-singles.eharmony.com/

If long distance is a definite deal-breaker for you, simply ask us for other suggestions to open up the settings in other ways. It’s likely that we may find other suitable options.

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- June 3rd, 2009, 12:33 pm
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I have mine set at 60 miles, but recently reset the importance from "somewhat" to "very Important", because I was getting matches from Vancouver and London, and I can't really afford to travel 3000 miles on a regular basis. I sometimes think that even 60 miles is a bit far to drive frequently, when it means metropolitan rush hour traffic. I'm tempted to reset mine to within 60 mile AND my own state, but I think that might be overkill.
- June 3rd, 2009, 01:45 pm
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springtime1960 wrote :
I had my settings at anywhere in the US and have flown to the opposite coast 3 times. One of those ended up as becoming a very good friend. I looked at the travel as a vacation/adventure. Met 3 great men. After 3 yrs on eH and over 1,000 matches...I had OC with probably a dozen and looks like I finally met someone on the other side of my state who could be "the one". We alternate every other weekend traveling to one side of the state or the other. It works out great and we text every day. On our first date it was love at first sight, so completely different than any other 1st date and the feelings keep growing. It's been 8 months now.I think you just have to be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs before finding your prince.
Even though you wrote your reply several weeks ago, I hope you return to read my "thank you". It can be very discouraging to meet so many people that you don't "click" with. I have lost count of the "frogs I've kissed", but you have given me encouragement to keep on hanging in there and not give up. I will keep telling myself it's a numbers game, and that he's out there someplace. You have a wonderful attitude, and I wish you the best of luck!
- June 14th, 2009, 01:44 pm
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