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RLinDW is offline RLinDW Post #1  April 8,2009, 9:48pm
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So today was the last day of my three month eH subscription. I went back and forth on whether or not to resubscribe - and I may come back again - but the quality and quantity of matches I was recieving was going down, and my life is only getting busier. I signed up in January somewhat as a New Year's Resolution, and partially because, once again, I'd jokingly listed "a boy" on my birthday/Christmas wishlist (my birthday being around Christmas), and not only did I not recieve one, I was reminded by a friend that for my 25th birthday, I really should have been asking for a man , and not a boy .

So I was determined to go out and find a man for myself.

Even though it would appear I'm walking away from the experience with little to show from it - I only made it to OC with two men, and only one of those made it past a few emails and the one that did last was a LD match that I've given up on - I still feel like it was a good experience. It opened my eyes to the idea that I can get out there and put myself forward, and that while I may not have every man on the block tripping over themselves to date me, well, those probably aren't the ones I want anyhow. As for the ones I do want... well, I think I've learned that I could just be what they want as well.

Now, lesson number two, how to reel in the ones who have shown interest without turning beet red and getting all tongue-tied...
 
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i just subscribed to eharmony and already in about 2 weeks i've reached oc with a member, albet he IS 4 hours away I'm hoping something does come of this open communication. So my whole point of subscribing is that, although I do get hit on when Im out I can never actually "hit it off" with anyone. So I figure if someone is already matched with the core of my personality then that hopefully increases my chances of a relationship that is worthwhile.


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RLinDW, wrote :

So today was the last day of my three month eH subscription. I went back and forth on whether or not to resubscribe - and I may come back again - but the quality and quantity of matches I was recieving was going down, and my life is only getting busier. I signed up in January somewhat as a New Year's Resolution, and partially because, once again, I'd jokingly listed "a boy" on my birthday/Christmas wishlist (my birthday being around Christmas), and not only did I not recieve one, I was reminded by a friend that for my 25th birthday, I really should have been asking for a man , and not a boy .

So I was determined to go out and find a man for myself.

Even though it would appear I'm walking away from the experience with little to show from it - I only made it to OC with two men, and only one of those made it past a few emails and the one that did last was a LD match that I've given up on - I still feel like it was a good experience. It opened my eyes to the idea that I can get out there and put myself forward, and that while I may not have every man on the block tripping over themselves to date me, well, those probably aren't the ones I want anyhow. As for the ones I do want... well, I think I've learned that I could just be what they want as well.

Now, lesson number two, how to reel in the ones who have shown interest without turning beet red and getting all tongue-tied...
Hmm, I think it is OK to have asked for a boy. If you were dating a guy you would refer to him as your "BOY friend" not "this is my MAN friend". Right?


I like your attitude. While you have not been successful at finding the guy you are looking for you view it as a positive experience. I have been here a year longer than you and have yet to find "the one", I, too, still view the trip as a positive experience.


I do hope that you will continue on with the Advice boards. All the best people hang out here.
 
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