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I look at occupation as one component of the profile along with the photos and depth of the statements to assess whether there could be something intriguing for me. That said, I'd want to know how your job or career fulfills you since it takes such a large part of your day. Is it just a job? Or do you feel a sense of accomplishment and pride, giving a valued service to your customers, clients, guests, patients, whatever your field or business? Do you enjoy your work; is it interesting and challenging? Could you relate to what I do for my customers and my work values, my challenges and my successes?

Compatibility in occupational levels is not as important as understanding and respecting each another's contribution and work ethic, and how they mesh with your mutual goals, values and intention for a connected future together.
Great thoughts! i only hope everyone sees things as you do!
- April 20th, 2008, 09:45 pm
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For the most part as long as someone is employed, I don't close them out due to their occupation. The only occupation I close out or have closed out so far is that of the military. I love and support our military, but I know that I couldn't handle dating someone who was in the military. I wouldn't want to have to be a part from my partner for long periods of time, and the thought of them going to war and possibly not coming home is something I know I wouldn't want to be involved in.

My biggest reasons for closing someone are statements like "I'm not passionate about anything in my life." And a profile that has little if any of the questions filled out. I also closed someone the other day because they stated how they were loosing passion in their life because their job was emotionally draining. When you start out negative, I don't think many of us want to continue to read the rest of the profile.
- April 20th, 2008, 10:00 pm
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For the most part as long as someone is employed, I don't close them out due to their occupation. The only occupation I close out or have closed out so far is that of the military. I love and support our military, but I know that I couldn't handle dating someone who was in the military. I wouldn't want to have to be a part from my partner for long periods of time, and the thought of them going to war and possibly not coming home is something I know I wouldn't want to be involved in.

My biggest reasons for closing someone are statements like "I'm not passionate about anything in my life." And a profile that has little if any of the questions filled out. I also closed someone the other day because they stated how they were loosing passion in their life because their job was emotionally draining. When you start out negative, I don't think many of us want to continue to read the rest of the profile.
So true, Terizz.

I quickly close out the one who list all their "don't wants" and past negative relationship experiences- in their introductory info!! Come on! at least wit til OC to tell me how bad you've had it all your stinkin miserable life!! LOL
- April 20th, 2008, 11:34 pm
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I look at occupation as one component of the profile along with the photos and depth of the statements to assess whether there could be something intriguing for me. That said, I'd want to know how your job or career fulfills you since it takes such a large part of your day. Is it just a job? Or do you feel a sense of accomplishment and pride, giving a valued service to your customers, clients, guests, patients, whatever your field or business? Do you enjoy your work; is it interesting and challenging? Could you relate to what I do for my customers and my work values, my challenges and my successes?

Compatibility in occupational levels is not as important as understanding and respecting each another's contribution and work ethic, and how they mesh with your mutual goals, values and intention for a connected future together.
I too look at occupation as part of the profile. It's not a bias against people of certain occupations.

For me, I'm looking for someone of a similar background to mine. If she has a job that's similiar to mine, then I'm more likely to feel like we can understand each other, get along better, etc.

It's more about finding people who are like me, not about looking down on other people.
- April 21st, 2008, 12:28 pm
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pureplem wrote :
Shelby wrote :

I look at occupation as one component of the profile along with the photos and depth of the statements to assess whether there could be something intriguing for me. That said, I'd want to know how your job or career fulfills you since it takes such a large part of your day. Is it just a job? Or do you feel a sense of accomplishment and pride, giving a valued service to your customers, clients, guests, patients, whatever your field or business? Do you enjoy your work; is it interesting and challenging? Could you relate to what I do for my customers and my work values, my challenges and my successes?

Compatibility in occupational levels is not as important as understanding and respecting each another's contribution and work ethic, and how they mesh with your mutual goals, values and intention for a connected future together.
Great thoughts! i only hope everyone sees things as you do!
Purplem,

Many many years ago while going to school Iworked asa customer service agent for Fedex so I can appreciate, as a former insider, the energy You need to have to meet deadlines socustomers get their Very Important Packages to their destination -- they pay a premium price for premium service, and so Fedexhires premium people!Glad that you are enjoying your work --

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- April 21st, 2008, 03:18 pm
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If someone close you out because of your occupation, then you should be thankful. To me I would think they're shallow and I'd rather know that now then later. I'm sure MOST of us want a partner to be with us because of who we are and not what our job is. I was an OTR driver for four years. I started out with riffer and did my last year with a drop deck. I've meet some of the nicest people out there, and yes there're a few rotten apple too (CB RAMBO). With some few bad incidents people started to stereotypes the profession. That's just some of our human nature putting big emphasis on the bad and forgets about the goods. If anyone tells me that they know a profession that consists of all good people, then I'll call them a liar..........When you've that special person your profession not going to matter, because waking up with (her)or(his) and your smile will make anything that you do seem just right. I'm not written anything on here that most of us already knew, but this is just my two cents.
- April 21st, 2008, 05:25 pm
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it varies according to individua's needs and wants.

yes, i do close match based on occupation, but no fixed rule. i'm quite selective on amount of education.
- April 22nd, 2008, 01:40 am
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If you are concerned then mention this in your profile. Be sure to list the positives of your job, nothing negative. I can’t think of any reason to be opposed to your job except if they work for UPS

I actually mention my job in my profile. I’m in IT but I don’t act or look like a geek. I don’t play online computer games all night, or dress like a slob or live in my parent’s basement. But I work long hours, constantly have to check emails on my Crackberry and sometimes have to work at night or on the weekends. And I like sci-fi. Is Battlestar Galactica not the best show on TV?

The only occupation that concerns me is “unemployed”. And I’ve met a couple of matches where they had something listed and then I find out they are currently unemployed

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pureplem wrote :
No, I don't downplay it, for several reasons: it is what I do, not who I am; it is a very good job; and if someone really thinks they are "too good" to date a truckdriver, we probably wouldn't get along- even if I DIDN'T drive a truck!!
I dated a truck driver.....very nice guy. It just depends on the situation. I wouldn't close anyone out just because of the occupation.



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- April 22nd, 2008, 06:55 pm
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Maybe I'm shallow, but yes. I do close people out because of occupation. Someone had sth to do with Sports and I have nooo Sports Interest whatsoever, so I closed em out. In the most extreme case, I had one guy in his late 30s and his position was "something Analyst." I'm sorry but at 40, you should not be an analyst at anything. Shows lack of career success to me. I'm not a snob, I promise. You just need some criteria to close ppl out.
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