Rookie to EHarmony

It seemed like it took alot of time at first to me as well, when I first came to it from one of the 'other' dating websites. But after a few months of using it, things move along pretty quickly (totally depends on the people involved and how agressive they are in their search!) I've gotten to the point now, that when i get to open communciation (where you can exchange phone numbers and move towards a real date) I really miss the 'question and answer' segment. Sounds weird, but I think that part of it is fun. How often can you get guys to answer such personal in-depth questions?!! Once you get to open communication- they just answer the easy questions and ignore the 'tough' ones! So don't get frustrated- just sit back and enjoy it. In the end, you might find that the process itself creates a certain amount of 'investment' in you, so chance are- it's going to lead to a date, just be patient and enjoy the process!

Dear coco21,


I'm sorry to hear that there was some confusion regarding our service. The main reason members come to eHarmony is because we prescreen their matches, giving them the best chance possible of creating a highly-compatible, long-term relationship with a very special match.


Our Guided Communication process is provided to help members thoughtfully and comfortably build a relationship with a match before entering into Open communication. I hope that, jomarie's, wonderful post has helped you feel more positively about this process, and that you will also come to value it. However, with over 20 million registered users on our site, we understand that many of our members enjoy varying styles of communication; therefore, we also offer the FastTrack option. Should you decide to ask a match to FastTrack and they accept, you and your match will be allowed to proceed directly into Open Communication, bypassing our Guided Communication process.


Please know that we want to do all we can to help you have a successful eHarmony experience. Our Customer Care team is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to answer questions or provide you with account-assistance. You can e-mail them directly through the Help link available at the bottom of all our site pages. Make sure that you receive an incident number to confirm that your e-mail was successfully sent, and a Customer Care agent will be glad to follow up with you.


I wish you all the best.


-Renee
eHarmony Advice Host

Coco21 I don't know if you have specific questions or just some befuddlement from be new to eHarmony. If you have specific questions then feel free to ask away, all of us that hang out on the Advice boards are always happy to help. I, for one, also answer PMs.


And best of luck in your quest.

I am trying to get acclimated. However, I will say, this site is very different. I was trying to manuver around. However, it definitely doesn't work as I would have thought. I have read many different things, good, bad and indifferent here on Advice, if you will. It does seem to take more time, the guided communication that is. I thought we could do our own search and send out emails and what knot, unless, I am doing something very different, I am not all too sure I want to leave the entire match making to EH. I think its ok but, can seem rather frustrating. Well, lets see what happens. I am sure I didn't take the time to thoroughly read exactly how the site worked.


Ciao

COCO21 I am feeling the same way. I want to be able to see photo's of the people that come my way and half of the matches I am always requesting photos and I don't get them I am turned off by not seeing a picture. I will ignore the profile. I am very visual and sure looks are only surface, but I have to be first initially attracted physically. I don't seem to have the control of searching for myself. Like you said, unless I am missing something, I am not too happy with what has come my way for the cost of the service.