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PY is offline PY Post #31  March 27,2009, 8:58am

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gr8galmv,550597 wrote :

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Yep. I very rarely use EH's standard answer, I like to always customized answer, either because I'm thoughtful or I just have finger diarrhea





OMG, this was gross, weirdand intriguing all at once. Finger Diarrhea with the no doubt constipated animated face. Thanks for a whole never level of wierdness to my life.
Well, ya know it's me...soI'm sure you're not surprised to read that
 
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PY,550029 wrote :

I've answered with option E...
please record your answer here - some of us want to know it lol
 
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I am a self-identified unromantic. Because commercialized"romance" is so cliched. I am affectionate and passionate but have had bad experiences with guys who consider themselves "romantic" as their gestures seemed too slick and kind of manipulative. Like they had read a manual---"How to get a woman to swoon for Dummies". It felt a little too construed. But I usually answer this one with E and explain a little. Especially since, by the strangest coincidence, 98% of my matches are highly skilled at creating romance in a relationship. LOL.


yeah, i have to say that's how i feel too. when someone says they're romantic, i start to get afraid... like they'll do the dozen red roses thing and want to get married on top of a hot air balloon.
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I considered being "romantic" placing a single red rose at the door when she came home from work. Or making a candlelight dinner in the middle of the week for her, Running a bubble bath and offering to scrub her back,,, (okay, that last one is a little self-serving).


I'd better go check my settings at eH... Yikes, and some of the people I answered during communication!
 
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"Romantic" is different things to different people. To some it is the grand gestures, to others (like me) while we appreciate those things, it really is the little things that mean so much. But it is important to show someone that you love and appreciate them so choosing option D would be an instant close for me. It seems to indicate a level of coldness.
 
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I think this is an excellent example for the suggestion that there be NO multiple choice questions - make everyone choose option E and explain themselves. "Romantic" means so many things to so many people that even if someone chose the same answer you hoped for, it could mean a totally different "romantic" and ultimately disappoint you.





If offered only the four choices, I'd have answered D. I think of "romantic" as the candy-and-flowers thing, which drives my pragmatic self nuts with the waste. I don't need all that. A man who was into that would have me wondering what he was feeling guilty about!





The wisest course of action, with any of the EH questions or MH/CS, is to ask what they have in mind, and to explain yourself as clearly as possible. We too often assume we know what the other is thinking, and if we don't ask for clarification we'll never find out.
 
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Spider,551191 wrote :

I think this is an excellent example for the suggestion that there be NO multiple choice questions - make everyone choose option E and explain themselves. "Romantic" means so many things to so many people that even if someone chose the same answer you hoped for, it could mean a totally different "romantic" and ultimately disappoint you.





If offered only the four choices, I'd have answered D. I think of "romantic" as the candy-and-flowers thing, which drives my pragmatic self nuts with the waste. I don't need all that. A man who was into that would have me wondering what he was feeling guilty about!





The wisest course of action, with any of the EH questions or MH/CS, is to ask what they have in mind, and to explain yourself as clearly as possible. We too often assume we know what the other is thinking, and if we don't ask for clarification we'll never find out.
RIght on


I think they should change the reply option and have actual written answers, so you can write what you want..
 
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Stargate,551111 wrote :

lil_lamb,550604 wrote :


ellie82smiles,550339 wrote :


I am a self-identified unromantic. Because commercialized"romance" is so cliched. I am affectionate and passionate but have had bad experiences with guys who consider themselves "romantic" as their gestures seemed too slick and kind of manipulative. Like they had read a manual---"How to get a woman to swoon for Dummies". It felt a little too construed. But I usually answer this one with E and explain a little. Especially since, by the strangest coincidence, 98% of my matches are highly skilled at creating romance in a relationship. LOL.


yeah, i have to say that's how i feel too. when someone says they're romantic, i start to get afraid... like they'll do the dozen red roses thing and want to get married on top of a hot air balloon.


Really?


I considered being "romantic" placing a single red rose at the door when she came home from work. Or making a candlelight dinner in the middle of the week for her, Running a bubble bath and offering to scrub her back,,, (okay, that last one is a little self-serving).


I'd better go check my settings at eH... Yikes, and some of the people I answered during communication!
ohmigosh. ok. yes, all that i think is scary. red roses, candlelight dinners, and bubble bath.


it's not the flowers, dinners, or bath. it's the red, candlelight and bubble. it feels like a performance to me and that a performance is required of me.


my boyfriend, who hates pepsi and gags on diet anything, courted and captured me with a diet coke from the vending machine placed on my desk. he was my hero last week because i had to do this thing for school that had me gone from 7:30 am to 9 pm on a saturday. he looked after my dog and got some take-out dinner for me when i got home.


down market, but winning. it was, like, he did one better than treating me as he'd treat himself - i.e. doing something nice - he treated me as i'd treat myself.
 
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Many men asked me that question when I was on eH and it was confusing. The system seems to be using romantic as a euphemism for s e x. Sometimes those two words mean the same thing, but often they are different.


For example, I think of romance as maybe expensive candlelight dinners, cuddling in front of a fireplace while romantic music plays, giving and receiving gifts, cooking a romantic dinner for two, walking on the beach at sunset, et al.


S e x does not always involve the above efforts and gestures, nor does lovemaking.


I interpreted the question as romantic = expensive, and the man having to perform in order to earn my love.


Although I think there is another question about affectionate versus non.
 
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I choose that answer all the time.





After reading the comments here, I agree. The term 'romance' carries varying images to different people.





Guess I should just write my own answer.
 
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