Closed reason "other" means they think you're ugly, right?


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westloop is offline westloop Post #1  March 23,2009, 11:52am
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What else could it possibly mean? Same with "I don't feel the chemistry is there." How could you possibly know if chemistry's there or not by glancing at my profile for 2 seconds?


I'm just feeling frustrated and disillusioned with dating, and am truly afraid I'm going to die alone, despite my best efforts. Oh well - if I'm a troll and no one will ever love me I guess that's just the hand I've been dealt.


Guess I'm just tired of paying good money for people to reject me, when they could be rejecting me for free!
 
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Not necessarily. "Other" and "I'd rather not say" could just mean that you have a pet rabbit and your match is allergic to rabbits.


"I don't think the chemistry is there" could just mean that the match doesn't think you two have similar interests or way or thinking, or lifestyle to build a relationship upon.


All three of these close statements COULD indicate a lack of physical attraction.


But please remember that someone not being attracted to you does not mean that you're ugly. Say it out loud a few times if you have to. People get so hung up on this. Physical attraction is so subjective - it's just a personal preference, not a condemnation.
 
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Don't feel bad, i'm in the same boat. I've been on here about 3 months or so and not one person has taken interest in me.I keep on getting "other" all the time. I guess somethings aren't meant to be.
 
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I get matches closed on me for "other" and "rather not say" all the time. Maybe it's because I'm heavy, or because I am bearded. Maybe it's something totally unrelated to my appearance. I really don't care and don't hold it against the ladies a bit. You can't make someone be physically attracted to you. I also have a few matches in open communication, so apparently, I'm not Gollum to some people! LOL


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PY is offline PY Post #5  March 23,2009, 7:29pm

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I normally think when they closed me with 'other' it means they're not good enough for me and they don't think they deserve me.



I could be wrong though.
 
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PY,546038 wrote :

I normally think when they closed me with 'other' it means they're not good enough for me and they don't think they deserve me.



I could be wrong though.

Wow! So that explains it! I must be very intimidating because I get closed with that a lot!
 
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PY,546038 wrote :


I normally think when they closed me with 'other' it means they're not good enough for me and they don't think they deserve me.








Maybe you should stop posting pics of your hot
 
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PY is offline PY Post #8  March 23,2009, 8:20pm

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illustrator,546095 wrote :

PY,546038 wrote :


I normally think when they closed me with 'other' it means they're not good enough for me and they don't think they deserve me.








Maybe you should stop posting pics of your hot
I took that down a while ago......
 
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When I close using 'other' - it is because the remaining options aren't truthful to use. ie it's not an issue for distance or age for me. I have never used itto indicate I found the man unattractive.


I know what you're saying re the chemistry thing; but there have been some matches I've looked at and I've just known he's not for me. I would never have believed it possible before joining EH.


@ Illustrator/PY - Those buns look more like those dumpling type foods you get served with yum cha .. they come in the same basket thing too!
 
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"Other" could mean anything. Think up a reason, any reason. Make it very specific. Make it totally random. Anything in the whole wide world. There ya go, there's a reason that fits in the "other" category.


I've used itwhen none of the other options seem to fit. I've used it when I don't like the guys pictures. I've used it if he comes across as boring in the profile, or arrogant. I've used it when I just got a weird "vibe" from the profile, but it was nothing in particular about the statements listed. I've used it if he's mentioned AA and the 12 steps over and over and over again - but didn't want to use the statements option, to make him think his statements were *wrong* (they just weren't for me).


I've also used "other" if I'm just in a cleaning house kid of mood and don't feel like actually reading through the list of other choices - laziness.


Bottom line - until and unless eH ever puts a dialogue box alongside other for us to type in our own reasons - it will forever be a mystery.


So, with that in mind - next time you get closed with Other, or I'd rather not say - go with PY's reason from above, undoubtedly, it is the most accurate!!


(LOVE it PY!!! )
 
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