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light115 wrote :
I have the same thought...does eharmony really work?? I have seen the commericals and I believed I would have a date...unfortunately or fortunately (smile) I have not. I have had only one response to my questions and then it is like he disappeared....I have sent many questions out and only one reply...If any one has any suggestions that would be helpful... God Bless you..
Hi light115,

welcome to the club, I have 2 open communicattions, after 3 times email, they disappered and no matches try innitiate to contact me and they don't anwer my questionalso , so dissapointed.
- January 28th, 2008, 10:38 am
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Does eh work?Here's the REAL answer - the commercials work, and that's all that matters to the bottom line. I have to say eh has not worked for me yet, but I'm still a member, still initiating contact with men I find interesting, and still responding to the rare few who contact me . . . and still feeling rejected all of the time. I am kicking myself for wasting money chasing these false hopes, and won't do so again. You're never too old to learn a good lesson.
- January 28th, 2008, 07:47 pm
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I have two co-workers [former] who met their current spouses via eHarmony. I never really believe the commercials and testimonials I see as I am always skeptical. But working with these two people [one man and one woman] and knowing what really cool people they are, it did motivate me moreso to give eH a try. I'm still NOT expecting to meet my spouse on eH....but if I did, I can't say I would be disappointed that I was wrong.
- January 31st, 2008, 02:51 pm
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DaisyGirl wrote :
I've been a member of e-harmony on and off for a while. I've been on other services too. The first time, I didn't get any matches in my area, but did get matched with a couple of men where the communication progressed to friendship. The communication dwindled when the reality of the distance sank in. This time, I was matched with many men in my area (those commercials work!) Yes, the response rate is... poor (about 20% in my experience... which is hard when you only have a few matches). Frustration, hurt and disappointment are all things I felt many times. I agree that there should be a way for paid users to know if other users are paid users or not (somehow rejection because they don't want to pay would have hurt less than... they just don't like you... and are too lazy to close the match.) However, I met a wonderful man on this service. Amazing, sweet, and supportive; he's the person I've waited for! After a couple of months with him, I realized that all the pain I've experienced in other relationships, all the hurt and disappointment... everything I've gone through... none of it matters anymore. Now I'm just so grateful to have this person, this amazing person in my life... He is more than I ever imagined in a partner. Is e-harmony worth it? Yes.
Congratulations DaisyGirl about the successful match hope things continue to work out for you! I have been a member for a while and Eharm continues to improve the services they offer. I do believethey havea great deal to offer. I've dated several matches and have found them to be quite compatible. The reason the relationships did notwork outwere due to reasons other than compatibility. I do agree with a comment made that there needs to be a way to determine if a match has a paid subscription to avoid wasting ones time requesting communication. Overall E is a great sight and I'd definitely recommend it. I do take advantage of other dating sights and oddly enough I'm currently dating a gentelman from one of Eharm's competitors. LOL They all offer us the opportunity to find that special someone.
- February 1st, 2008, 06:31 am
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I read this thread and read a number of men and women complaining about nobody connecting with them? Did any of you take the time to send a message to some of these men and women? Why not write some of the people who like you are frustrated and perhaps a bit lonely? Just say hi I am so and so and I liked what you said in "does e harmony work".

You begin a virtual relationship. I am not a member here and probably never will be. But I like to learn about the on line dating experiences of other people. But most of all I like to meet new people. I have sent out many messages to people who caught my eye. Some didn't bother writing back but many did and we now chat quite regularly. I am not looking for a date or even a future husband. But I do like to meet new people and this board has much to offer. Take advantage of it.

Why if you are a lonely woman would you read a post from a lonely guy and not drop him a message? I don't know if the guy meets all 29 of your profiled personality bits, but who cares? He is just some guy who would like to have some contact with a woman. And guys the same thing: you spend time here writing about your frustrations with EH and right in front of you are women who are on record saying thery are here to meet a man.

Doh! Get it?

Whatever it is you guys do behind the scenes surely this forum is also a place for you to meet at least a person with similar interests. If you are lonely and you are complaining about lack of success and have not taken the time to message a lot of these posters, I don't think you are as serious about finding someone as you claim.
- February 1st, 2008, 06:02 pm
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mystikchik wrote :

I read this thread and read a number of men and women complaining about nobody connecting with them? Did any of you take the time to send a message to some of these men and women? Why not write some of the people who like you are frustrated and perhaps a bit lonely? Just say hi I am so and so and I liked what you said in "does e harmony work".

You begin a virtual relationship. I am not a member here and probably never will be. But I like to learn about the on line dating experiences of other people. But most of all I like to meet new people. I have sent out many messages to people who caught my eye. Some didn't bother writing back but many did and we now chat quite regularly. I am not looking for a date or even a future husband. But I do like to meet new people and this board has much to offer. Take advantage of it.

Why if you are a lonely woman would you read a post from a lonely guy and not drop him a message? I don't know if the guy meets all 29 of your profiled personality bits, but who cares? He is just some guy who would like to have some contact with a woman. And guys the same thing: you spend time here writing about your frustrations with EH and right in front of you are women who are on record saying thery are here to meet a man.

Doh! Get it?

Whatever it is you guys do behind the scenes surely this forum is also a place for you to meet at least a person with similar interests. If you are lonely and you are complaining about lack of success and have not taken the time to message a lot of these posters, I don't think you are as serious about finding someone as you claim.
Awesome reply Mystik!
- February 1st, 2008, 06:17 pm
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hotmama521 wrote :
I've been on eHarmony for a while now and I'm not thrilled about the reponse that I get. I find that I'm being matched with people that I have nothing in common with and live so far away, that there is no way you could ever meet. I wish this site would do what the others do and that is to post the profile and let us get to know the person, not have them pick out someone just to be giving us a so called match, that we have nothing in common with, or age, or miles. This site does not give us the freedom of choice, they want to make it for you.
So this is completely different than match.com where you can browse profiles? huh? So we just sit around and wait?I havebeen on for 20 minutes and the matches, dont' seem like they should? The commercials seem so believeable. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm.
- February 1st, 2008, 06:29 pm
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Bill Gates wrote :
Among people who have used eHarmony there is a subset of them for whom it is great and another subset for whom is is not so great. The question is what are the parameters that define those two subsets? I suspect that eHarmony's marketing folks have a pretty good idea of what those parameters are. If you really want to know, what I would suggest doing is to try it for a month. If you get a lot of communication, then it's working. If you get little to no communication, then it's not and probably never will.
Your right I just signed up today.. I will giveit a month..





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- February 1st, 2008, 06:33 pm
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I must say I don't feel that my investment has paid off on this site. I haven't received a match in many weeks and historically receive matches who close before you have a chance to review their information. Many of which are not active members and don't respond at all. That said I have heard of others who have realized great success on eHarmony. I'm certain that certain demographic profiles yield better results than others - age, location, race, - are key variables from a matching perspective. I have heard from a few of my matches that men on this site receive hundreds of matches - perhaps a special focus should be made on balancing the number of men and women on the site. I'm still hopeful that I might find success in finding a solid match before my subscription ends... good luck to all...
- February 1st, 2008, 07:24 pm
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I read this thread and read a number of men and women complaining about nobody connecting with them? Did any of you take the time to send a message to some of these men and women? Why not write some of the people who like you are frustrated and perhaps a bit lonely? Just say hi I am so and so and I liked what you said in "does e harmony work".

You begin a virtual relationship. I am not a member here and probably never will be. But I like to learn about the on line dating experiences of other people. But most of all I like to meet new people. I have sent out many messages to people who caught my eye. Some didn't bother writing back but many did and we now chat quite regularly. I am not looking for a date or even a future husband. But I do like to meet new people and this board has much to offer. Take advantage of it.

Why if you are a lonely woman would you read a post from a lonely guy and not drop him a message? I don't know if the guy meets all 29 of your profiled personality bits, but who cares? He is just some guy who would like to have some contact with a woman. And guys the same thing: you spend time here writing about your frustrations with EH and right in front of you are women who are on record saying thery are here to meet a man.

Doh! Get it?

Whatever it is you guys do behind the scenes surely this forum is also a place for you to meet at least a person with similar interests. If you are lonely and you are complaining about lack of success and have not taken the time to message a lot of these posters, I don't think you are as serious about finding someone as you claim.
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Thank you Red Sox Girl.

It really does start to get to me at how dating dysfunctional some are who hang out here. They bring to daing a whole long, long list of do's and don'ts. Forget all the rules. Forget all the lists. Forget what anyone once taught you good girls and good boys must do in order to be good boys and good girls and just get out and meet people. When at e harmony the way to do this is message people. Start talking. See where it goes. No one is going to find one single person if all they do is sit and write and b**ch about how hard it is to meet someone or even more stupidly blaming someone else.

If I was a chick here all hyped up on meeting some guy I would cast a very, very big net. I would probabl wind up throwing out most of the fish I caught, but I bet I would also find a few keepers, as well.

So many people are just hurting themselves with all their dumb rules about who makes first contact and what you can and can't speak about.

Like Nike I say: Just Do It or like Yoda on the Star Wars series: there is no such thing as try, just do. In other words you are here for one reason and only one reason and that is not to promote a kind of piety or New Puritanism. You are here to meet someone of the opposite sex so don't try, DO!!!

Thankd Red Sox Girls you seem like a cool person except for your taste in teams! LOL
- February 2nd, 2008, 11:49 am
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