Meeting somebody from Eharmony for the first time


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DecBaby07 is offline DecBaby07 Post #1  February 11,2009, 6:52am
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I am meeting somebody off of Eharmony for the first time this weekend. I am nervous and excited. I am recently divorced with a 14 month old. What kind of topics should I keep off of, I know I am not going to talk aout my ex. Mostly I talk about my daughter but I am going to try not to do that, because I want to make a really good first impression. I don't remember it being this hard the first time around.
 
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You do not want to spend most of the date talking about your daughter. It's not because men don't care about that - it's because the man is trying to date you and not your daughter. He wants to know what you're about. You'll have plenty of conversation just filling in the wholes left empty by his profile, and vice versa. Save the heavier conversation for the second and third "meets." Good luck.
 
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Be honest, up-front and let the conversation go where it may. I agree with the previous post that you should focus on discussing the similarities and interests of you and your date. Although your daughter is an integral part of your life, you are a person outside of her. My greatest advice would be to be yourself, don't put on a front or fail to exude aspects of your personality. Enjoy!
 
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tbesq,482188 wrote :

You do not want to spend most of the date talking about your daughter. It's not because men don't care about that - it's because the man is trying to date you and not your daughter. He wants to know what you're about. You'll have plenty of conversation just filling in the wholes left empty by his profile, and vice versa. Save the heavier conversation for the second and third "meets." Good luck.
+1000!!!! I talked on the phone, twice, with a guy and all he did was talk about his kids. AFter the first call, I thought I'd give him a second try and see if we could connect. Upon the second call being all about his kids, I didn't even want to meet him. Figured, if all he is focused on is his kids, then he doesn't have room in his life for someone special. His kids were his priority in life and that was that.


So,if you like the guy, talk about YOU, talk about HIM. It's not hard, it should be natural if there is a YOU and there is a HIM. If there is only YOUR KIDS, that's why it will be hard.
 
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Hi DecBaby07,


Hey, I'm glad to hear you are about to go out. That is really exciting!


You've heard some good wisdom already, and I'm sure you're going to get more. I just wanted to send a little something your way from eHarmony Advice. Here are some eHarmony Advice articles that may help equip you for your first date:


http://advice.eharmony.com/article/t...e-iq-quiz.html


http://advice.eharmony.com/article/t...checklist.html


http://advice.eharmony.com/article/h...much-more.html


Enjoy!


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